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Friday, July 5, 2019

Saint Julian the Hospitaller


According to de Varazze, the night Julian was born, his father, a man of noble blood, saw pagan witchessecretly jinx his son into killing both his parents. His father wanted to get rid of the child, but his mother did not let him do so. As the boy grew into a handsome young man, his mother would regularly burst into tears because of the sin her son was destined to commit. When he finally found out the reason for her tears, he swore he "would never commit such a sin" and "with great belief in Christ went off full of courage" as far away from his parents as he could. Some versions say that it was his mother who told him at the age of 10, while others say it was a stag he met in the forest while hunting (a situation used in depicting St. Julian in statues and pictures). After fifty days of walking he finally reached Galicia where he married a "good woman", said to be a wealthy widow.
Twenty years later, his parents decided to go look for their now thirty-year-old son. When they arrived, they visited the altar of St. James, and "as soon as they came out of the church they met a woman sitting on a chair outside, whom the pilgrims greeted and asked, for Jesus' love, whether she would host them for the night as they were tired". She let them in and told them that her husband, Julian, was out hunting. (This is why he is also known as the patron of hunters). The mother and father were overjoyed to have found their son, as was Julian's wife. "She took care of them well and had them rest in her and Julian's bed". But the enemy went off seeking Julian and told him: 'I have sour news for you. While you are here, hunting, your wife is in bed embracing another man. There they are right now, still sleeping.'"
De Verazze continues: "And Julian felt deep sadness and his face drew into a frown. He rode back home, went to his bed and found a man and a woman sleeping in it. He drew his sword and killed them both. He was about to take off and never again set foot in that land, but as he was leaving he saw his wife sitting among the other women. She told him: 'There are your mother and father resting in your room'. And so Julian knew, and fell into a rage. 'The shrewd enemy lied to me when he said my wife was betraying me', and while kissing their wounds he cried 'Better had I never been born, for I am cursed in soul and body.' And his good wife comforted him and said 'Have faith in Christ Almighty, a stream of life and mercy.' They had no children... Gold and silver they had a lot... And after seeking redemption in Rome, Julian built seven hospitals and twenty-five houses. And the poor started flowing to him, to Jesus' Almighty's love."

Quattrino of Macerata depicting Saint Julian
De Verazze continues: "The enemy conspired again to ruin Julian—disguised as a weak pilgrim, he was let in by Julian with the others. At midnight he woke up and made a mess of the house." The following morning Julian saw the damage and swore never to let in anyone else in his home. He was so furious he had everyone leave. "And Jesus went to him, again as a pilgrim, seeking rest. He asked humbly, in the name of God, for shelter. But Julian answered with contempt: 'I shall not let you in. Go away, for the other night I had my home so vandalized that I shall never let you in.' And Christ told him 'Hold my walking-stick, please'. Julian, embarrassed, went to take the stick, and it stuck to his hands. And Julian recognized him at once and said 'He tricked me the enemywho does not want me to be your faithful servant. But I shall embrace you, I do not care about him; and for your love I shall give shelter to whoever needs.' He knelt and Jesus forgave him, and Julian asked, full of repentance, forgiveness for his wife and parents. Some versions skip the second mistake and tell of an angel visiting Julian and announcing to him that he is forgiven.

My Nani; My last visit to my Nani

I do not remember the exact date or time etc when I visited my Nani in Chandpur last time . However, I do remember a few things which are quite emotional, heart touching and now  I do regret for some of them.
I went to meet her by evening train , reaching Chandpur at about 8 PM or so and returned the same night by 11;45 or so. Nani has shifted from her long time residence upstairs where I lived with her to a smaller place downstairs where mama ji ( Hakim Ajoodhiya Prasad ji ) used to live and sleep. It was for obvious reasons as she was not able to live and support herself by herself and was unable to live independently. Her physical and mental health were deteriorating every day .A family of a retired policeman ( Dewan ji) was taking her good care for her daily routine .
It was dark and Nani was taking rest and preparing to sleep when I reached there. Dewan ji,s wife told her about my arrival and she asked me very rightly as " Why I have come?" . Later when I told her that I am going back by the night train, she was very much annoyed and told me that why not I should go back now and immediately  and what was the necessity to come and visit her at all. I knew that it would have been very inconvenient for me and all others at that place if I would have stayed back as there was no enough place for me to stay. She did not talk to me much as she was annoyed and she was also not in her  proper senses.
To day when I recall this and analyse the incident, I regret for my own behaviour and pity on her helpless situation . I do not know as what could have been better for me to do any thing for the person who loved me the most.
After some time when Dewanji,s family was unable to look after any more , she moved to live with our family at Jhalu where she died after some time. What a tragic end of nani. I wonder as what happened to all her belongings in Chandpur. She had no other purpose to live a life except to look after all of us ( myself, Lakshmi, Gultoo, Santosh and Virendra ). We all lived at different times for our education with her when she was healthy and took care of all of us. In return, I do not think that any of us did anything any time for her . She left very heavy debt on us.

Last Lecture by RANDY PAUSCH

A few quotable ideas from the book of  Randy Pausch:

1. Flight attendant 's advice: Put on your Oxygen mask before assisting others.
2. Successful marriage: Needs perfect communication- sensing the needs of each other.
3.Life: If you lead your life the right way, the " KARMA" will take care itself. Dreams will come to you.
4.Selfishness: It is very important to focus on other people, not just yourself ( some people think that you have to care for yourself)
5. A lot of parents do not realize the power of their words.Depending on child's age and sense of self, an off-hand comment from Mom or Dad can feel like a shove from a bulldozer.
 6. Encourage the children to find their way with enthusiasm and passion. 7. Telling Kids: Tell them what they need to know and can understand not the stuff would go over their head.
8.Children's Dreams: Parents should encourage kids to develop a joy for life a great urge to follow their own dreams. The best we can do is to help them develop a personal set of tools for the task.
9. Faith: faith is something very personal. It is better to have some universal principles that apply to all faiths- to share things you know, understand, leaned through your relationships with people. Basic thing is that your thoughts and acts should be in harmony with the universe
10. Relationships: you may them in your place; in the places of your prayers, community ( eg; Piyare Lal Manku; Dr. Jai Krishna etc.)
11. Emotional Insurance: The premiums of emotional insurance would be paid for with time , not money. If you pay your premium at early stage while feeling all good, there will be less weighing on you in the time ahead.
12.Short Cut: the best short cut is long way- the hard work.
 13.CARS: cars are utilitarian devices to get you from point A to point B, not expression of social status. ( you do not need repair things if they still do what they are supposed to do).
 14.Justification: Justification is one of the glues that hold incompletions in place.(wrong things right);It takes a while to unglue your situation. you get energized if you can do unglue your position; remember the past, figure out the deficiencies and complete them. However, there are situations which can never be reversed after the passage of certain time.
15.“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
Read more quotations on: 
16.https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/287960.Randy_Pausch

Saturday, June 8, 2019

SHISHU SANSAR: stories

Stories are a part of life, part of learning, part of teaching, part of developing habits, good or bad. Here are some stories for children which are meant to cultivate good habits, good conduct, and good nature in them. Parents and elders are requested to encourage their children to read them, believe them and follow them, and learn from them.
Following links provide lots of good stories for children;
http://sushmajee.com/stories/index-stories-htmhttp://sushmajee.com/stories/index-stories-1.htm
http://sushmajee.com/shishusansar/stories/index-stories.htm
Stories-GeneralMythological Stories
  Animal Stories  Asur Stories
  Children's Stories  Gods Stories
  Educational Stories  Rishi Stories
  Historical Stories  Mahaabhaarat Stories
  Humor Stories  Mythological Stories
  Love Stories 
  Religious Stories 
  Sheikh Chillee Stories

Animal stories:http://sushmajee.com/shishusansar/stories-animal/index-animal.htm

useful and interesting stories

Wednesday, June 5, 2019

God has His Own Designs

Once God commanded his messenger (an Angel), "Proceed to Delhi immediately. The life of a middle-aged woman is coming to an end. Bring that soul (Jeev) here." The messenger. as bid by the Lord, left for Delhi. On reaching the place, the Angel was stunned at the sight that awaited. There, in an old dilapidated small hut, the Angel saw a poor young woman lying unconscious in a pool of blood. She had given birth to three baby girls only an hour earlier. One child was feeding from its mother while the other two were lying on either side of their mother.
The scene touched the heart of the Angel. Tears welled up the Angel's eyes and the Angel was angry at God for having asked it to take away the life of such a young woman. The Angel thought, "Oh, How could God be so cruel? Unaware of the situation in its entirety, He goes about giving commands. If I obey His command now, what will happen to these baby girls? If the woman's life is spared for another 10 years, these girls will grow up and might be able to support their lives by some means. How could God do this without thinking of these? Oh, I can't take away the life of this woman so mercilessly. I am not concerned about the anger of God that I might incur by disobeying His commands. I AM NOT GOING TO DO THIS." Deciding thus, the angel went empty handed to God.
Angel begged God to spare the life of the lady and add 10 more years to her life. The Lord smiled at the Angel and said, "It is I who have appointed you as the Angel. Your job is to take away the life of the human beings once their lifetime ends. And that's it, I have blessed you with the required skills on my own accord. From your words I gather that you believe yourself to be endowed with more intelligence and compassion than Me, the Supreme Being. You dare to teach me how to manage the world that I have created by my will. You have to suffer the punishment for disobeying my orders. I punish you to lead a life of an ordinary human being in the same city of Delhi. You will remain there until you laugh at yourself twice for your foolish behavior."
And Lo, The next moment the Angel took a human form and was standing in the Delhi Caunnaught circle without appropriate clothes to cover its body. It was the month of January and was bitter cold outside. The angel stood there shivering with cold. A cobbler who was passing by took pity on the Angel, bought clothes and gave them to the shivering Angel. The Angel thanked him and said, "I do not have any place to stay either. I will be very grateful if you give me shelter too." The cobbler said, “Don’t worry! Now that we are friends, you can stay with me at my place. But I warn you, my wife is very short tempered and one cannot prejudge her action when she gets angry. She will not stop from even throwing vessels. If that is ok with you, you can come with me". The Angel nodded and followed the cobbler home.
When the wife of cobbler got to know that he had bought clothes for the Angel with the money meant for buying clothes for her kids, her anger knew no bounds. She started cursing the cobbler and started throwing vessels at them. The Angel was also badly hurt. The Angel laughed at its foolishness for the first time, for ignoring the warning of its friend. From that day, the Angel started helping the cobbler in making sandals. The Angel designed various shoes imitating the ones it had seen in Heaven. The shop soon became very famous for its fabulous and rare shoe designs . Thus, 12 years rolled by.
One day the Angel was standing in front of a cloth store, that it saw a rich old lady getting down from an expensive car. Three beautiful young girls followed her. The Angel noticed that the three of them had a trident shaped mole in their right cheek. The Angel immediately recognized them to be the children of that woman whose life God had ordered it to take away 12 years ago.
The Angel went to the old lady and enquired if those girls were really her children. The old lady replied "Not really. About 12 years back, I was going in my car near Caunnaught circle. that I suddenly happened to hear the cry of kids. I went to the hut from where the cry of the children was heard and found these three baby girls lying with their dead mother. I had lost my husband and had no children. I adopted these three kids legally. I have educated them well and now they are the sole heirs to my entire property."
The angel wad dumb-founded. It thought, "Oh, How very foolish of me to have analyzed the orders of the all-knowing God with my small little brain. If that woman had not died then, would these kids be leading such a happy and rich life now?" And for the second time it laughed at itself for its foolishness.
[God knows what He's doing (for all of us). Only God should bless us with the realization that all that happens to us is by the will of God and it is indeed for our own good.]
This nice story is taken from "

sushmajee.com





Sunday, December 30, 2018

Family, relationships, and Marriage


Some thoughts:
FAMILY: ( परिवार ): केवल भाई लोग ( बहने/लडकियाँ  , नहीं)  , परिवार में आते है ! यह रिश्तेदार नहीं होते ! यह सम्बन्ध हमको, हमारे  प्रारभ्ध तथा हमारे पुरखों ने दिया है ! हमने स्वम् नही बनाया है !

Only brothers ( kin)  not the sisters come in the FAMILY; we do not make relationship in the family. it is automatically formed at the time of our birth ; this is natural relationship; This is given by our prarbhdh and parents/ancestors ;  it remains for ever whether you accept it or not ; recognize/value or not. It is there. According to our Vedic religion and our social structure based on it, WHOLE krm Chhetra  ( क्र्म्छेत्र )  is created with duties and responsibilities  of all the individuals  and accordingly we perform our actions to improve our DEEDS of this life . Hence, we have certain built-in obligations for each other.
Children of kin form 2nd generation or next generation of family and they are equally important as the family members.  All others out of the family are relatives ( रिश्तेदार )  and friends with different values and functions.! These relationships are established by ourselves according to the standard social norms. Sometimes, relationship with friends or specific individuals are  even stronger than natural/family relationships.
( though all relationships are important but in fact, relationships with the  (in-laws) members or the relatives  in the ex-family of the  girl are just very very formal; they were not there before the marriage of the girl and never there after ; just occasional  meetings with them  only with certain formalities; relations like father-in-law, ससुर, mother-in-law, सास, brother-in-law,  साला co-brother , सादू, , समधी, etc. are just irrelevant;  विय्र्थ के सम्बन्ध हैं  ); they are there because of their girl is now as our family member..

( कन्यादान के पश्चात, लडकी पर माँ, बाप का कोई अधिकार नहीं रह जाता! विवाह के पश्चात, लडकी, दुसरे परिवार की स्द्सिये हो जाती है , वो ही उसका घर होता है , और वहीं से उसका कर्म, कर्त्व्ये , क्र्म्छेत्र प्रारम्भ होता है ; जैसे नदी समुद्र में मिलकर अपना अस्तित्व खो देती है ;, नदी का समुद्र में मिलने के पश्चात, ना उसका  अपना  कोई रंग होता है, ना स्वाद होता है, ना उसकी अपनी कोई गति होती है ! उसी प्रकार,  उसको अपने नए परिवार में घुल मिल जाना चाहिए )

MARRIAGE  is the most  important socio-religious RITUAL in the family  which is self obligatory/mandatory for all the family members  to participate  ( not a formality as in the case of marriages in the relatives and friends ); परिवार के अनिय संस्कारों में, विवाह संस्कार सब से अधिक विशेष तथा महत्वपूर्ण है ! That provides us larger krm chhetra especially  for the  girls who do not have any social and religious obligations  in their parents' house ( no duties/responsibilities  except  to grow  responsibly for their own development and future ); their  krm chhtr starts only after the marriage  by assimilating totally in the new family  ; their duties and responsibilities start only after marriage as WIFE, as MOTHER  and other associated relationships  ( with mother-in-law .... etc.)
INVITATION for the marriage is  necessary as socio-religious and legal obligation ; given to relatives and friends and also to the members of the community as per the local norms.  The first letter is normally given to Shri Ganesh jee and devtas after pooja , then to others; it is a  part of our culture and needs to be extended with  very personal  touch . It is the invitation to the people for coming and attending the ritual/wedding ceremonies  and blessings the couple for their successful marriage with suitable gifts .
Well, with new socio-economic  structure with the effect and influence of globalization and hence changing situation, the concept of FAMILY , relationship and rest of it has  taken a different shape;
vales have changed, thinking  and  functions have changed. Society will soon adjust with new values , thoughts and functions etc.