Wisdom

" The endless cycles of idea and action; endless invention, endless experiment, Bring knowledge of motion, but not of stillness; Knowledge of speech but not of silence; knowledge of words and ignorance of the word...,..;Where is the life we have lost in living? Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge? where is the knowledge we have lost in information?  "                                T.S.Eliot

Stonewalling2

There is another kind of stonewalling where an individual is supposed to act but does not act; supposed to react but does not react; should express but does not express; should advise or give opinion but does not do; That means  that what an individual must do but does not do intentionally.
This kind of erratic social behaviour of an individual makes him to loose the trust of the community, group or the family in which he lives. Individual can not establish a good and effective social network. It deprives the individual to develop Social Capital and later Spiritual Capital. An individual is unable to develop some good Traits: Social and Spiritual especially EMPATHY.

Stonewalling

Stonewalling is the worst thing in social communication, and even worse in the family. Stony expression and silence mean icy distance- devastating to the health of relationships, especially if it is habitual. Stonewallers may be called  , गम मत्थान , चुप्पी साधक etc. In stonewalling , an individual creates a communication block or barrier by not participating in conversation , considering other members as inferior or superior or irrelevant to talk to ; does not cooperate or participate in conversation or discussion  ( a kind of refusal or avoidance  to communicate ); or use deflation in conversation in order to render a conversation meaningless, pointless or insignificant; gives vague answers if asked any questions ( eg; I do not know; I do not remember etc.) or ask question for a question; some times change the subjects abruptly; This kind of unwanted behavior of an individual causes conflict, unpleasantness, confusion, misunderstanding and anger among the people of the social group or the family. People start living in isolation from each other and doing things in their own way. For healthy relationships, social communication should be very open and effective.

EMOTION

EMOTION is defined as " Any agitation or disturbance of mind , feeling, passion, any vehement or excited mental state ".
A feeling and its distinctive thoughts, psychological and biological states ,and range of propensities to act.
There are hundreds of emotions, along with their blends, variations, mutations, and nuances. The main candidates and some of the members of their families:
ANGER: fury, outrage, resentment, wrath, exasperation, indignation, vexation, acrimony, animosity, annoyance, irritability, hostility, and, perhaps at the extreme, pathological hatred and violence.
SADNESS: grief, sorrow, cheerlessness, gloom, melancholy, self-pity, loneliness, dejection, despair, and, when pathological, severe depression.
FEAR: anxiety, apprehension, nervousness,concern, consternation, misgiving, wariness, qualm, edginess, dread, fright, terror, as a psychopathology, phobia, and panic.
ENJOYMENT: happiness, joy, relief, contentment, bliss, delight, amusement, pride, sensual, pleasure, thrill, rapture, gratification, satisfaction, euphoria, whimsy, ecstasy, and at the far edge, mania;
LOVE: acceptance, friendliness, trust, kindness, affinity, devotion, adoration, infatuation,, agape;
SURPRISE: shock, astonishment, amazement, wonder;
DISGUST: contempt, disdain, scorn, abhorrence, aversion, distaste, revulsion;
SHAME: guilt, embarrassment, chagrin, remorse, humiliation, regret, mortification, and contrition.
OTHERS: Jealousy ( a blend of anger, sadness, and fear); Virtues: hope and faith, courage and forgiveness, certainty and equanimity; Vices: doubt, complacency, sloth and torpor- or boredom;
four specific facial expressions  (Fear, Anger, Sadness and Enjoyment ) are recognized by people  in cultures around the world.
Outer ripples are Moods which are more muted and last far longer than the emotion. Temperaments evoke a given mood or emotion making people timid or cheery. Disorders of emotion such as clinical depression or unremitting anxiety , someone feels perpetually trapped in a toxic state.
(From Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman; p331-333)