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Sameer, Ritu, Sarvesh and Satvik went to visit the Zoo to day. I asked Sarvesh as how does he like that the animals are kept in the cages , they could have lived with full freedom in the forest ? He replied , he likes it as the animals get their free food without any effort , otherwise, in the forest they have to hunting for food and at times go hungry; secondly, they have been living in their habitat not in the cages really.
It is an extempore reply from a child of 7 years old child.
Monday, May 31, 2010
Family
May be that this is a new trend in educated modern families that the conjugal relationship either disappearing or reducing.I observe in many families that the wife and husband have been living almost independent life as most convenient or suitable to each individual. Family Communication is either broken or minimum with no healthy conversation or discussion. No body motivates or discourages the other just living independent life nothing in common, as it used to be , the breakfast, lunch or dinner, the timings, tastes or likings etc. Every one has his / her own way of managing the affairs. Is it union or family? It is the influence or effect of education or what ? Is it good , bad or OK? What would be the long term consequences for individuals or family ? For me, it appears to be very discomforting situation.One should should live in harmony with cooperation , caring for each other and mutual interests.In our own family of Sameer and Ritu , the situation is not different. Even, if we are at the dinner table, we are with different kinds of things not only different kind of food.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Our coming to USA
After our retirement from Ethiopia, where should we settle down , was a big debatable question for us. I remember that we thoroughly discussed the issue with our friends especially Sandhawalia and Prof. K.N.Singh who with their own background and experience and insight very strongly suggested us to go back to India and settle down over there. But we were highly biased about the welfare of our children and focused our attention that our priority should be that they must settle down in their married life and with their families. And this will not be possible unless we are there.
We planned and finally came down to live over here ( doubt, that we really wanted to settle down here ). We are proved wrong and they proved to be right. It is only after some time when we reassessed the situation, our decision and action, we feel sorry by coming here. If I committed a mistake by switching over from Geophysics to Librarianship, by leaving India to Nigeria, Ethiopia etc. was a blunder and certainly moving to USA is much more than a blunder and continuing to live here in our aging lives is what ??? , we do not know. where we stand to day is not even assessable.
I never had social , communication and psychological problems what I experienced over here especially with my own children.I know that I was never good at managing the finances but, perhaps, with my savings and retirement benefits etc. we could have survived better with greater satisfaction in India. As I was forced here ( because of our living here and the glare of this place ), I almost gambled with my finances by putting it all in the stock markets and loosing all of it. Not only loosing all, but even incurring the heavy debts of $50,000/- or so. I really feel, sorry, sad and sick about this self created and forced situation on me. Thank GOD that he provided us some safe heaven- the immigration to CANADA where Government of Canada has been taking our care for our survival- the shelter and living.
I always thought my children are my investment and I can always rely on them. But I feel sorry that I have been putting unnecessary burden on them instead of helping them as most parents are supposed to do for their children.
Only consolation is our grandchildren. They are very lovely , interesting, caring, loving, affectionate and intelligent. We have been with them very closely since their birth which is a very rare opportunity for most grandparents to enjoy the company and close association with their grandchildren.I do not know any who has that kind of opportunity what we have.
Who knows as what is good, or better or could or would have been worst.
Davendra K Gupta
We planned and finally came down to live over here ( doubt, that we really wanted to settle down here ). We are proved wrong and they proved to be right. It is only after some time when we reassessed the situation, our decision and action, we feel sorry by coming here. If I committed a mistake by switching over from Geophysics to Librarianship, by leaving India to Nigeria, Ethiopia etc. was a blunder and certainly moving to USA is much more than a blunder and continuing to live here in our aging lives is what ??? , we do not know. where we stand to day is not even assessable.
I never had social , communication and psychological problems what I experienced over here especially with my own children.I know that I was never good at managing the finances but, perhaps, with my savings and retirement benefits etc. we could have survived better with greater satisfaction in India. As I was forced here ( because of our living here and the glare of this place ), I almost gambled with my finances by putting it all in the stock markets and loosing all of it. Not only loosing all, but even incurring the heavy debts of $50,000/- or so. I really feel, sorry, sad and sick about this self created and forced situation on me. Thank GOD that he provided us some safe heaven- the immigration to CANADA where Government of Canada has been taking our care for our survival- the shelter and living.
I always thought my children are my investment and I can always rely on them. But I feel sorry that I have been putting unnecessary burden on them instead of helping them as most parents are supposed to do for their children.
Only consolation is our grandchildren. They are very lovely , interesting, caring, loving, affectionate and intelligent. We have been with them very closely since their birth which is a very rare opportunity for most grandparents to enjoy the company and close association with their grandchildren.I do not know any who has that kind of opportunity what we have.
Who knows as what is good, or better or could or would have been worst.
Davendra K Gupta
Nany in USA/Canada
Nanny is a very important person for working parents in USA and Canada ( or perhaps, any where else ) and if there is no body else in the house to look after the child. Nannies may live in or out, like other domestic workers, depending on their circumstances and those of their employers. Most people in Canada and USA like and wish to call their parents to support their children while they are at work. There are so many stories about nannies and their careless handling of the children. However, the parents are helpless if left with no other alternatives but to employ a nanny.
There are several professional agencies to search or provide a nanny of your choice. Salaries are high , say up to $ 500.00 per week with perks like a living accomodation and free meal etc.
Recently, my friend , D.K.Trehan and his wife, Sheel came from India when their only child and daughter was expecting a child in New Jersey . They have to stay back here for six months taking care of the mother and child. Often, they mentioned their day to day experience and told that it is a tough job especially taking care according to the local norms and standards ( introducing their own old/ traditional way of care is almost impossible ). At the time of their departure, they expressed the relief and their helplessness to stay any longer. Their daughter employed a local nanny for 7AM to 7PM - a young girl of 23 years to take care of the child . They will be paying $500.00 per week and free meals etc.I even suggested them to employ a little aged lady from our community, perhaps could have been better and more reliable.
Davendra K. Gupta
There are several professional agencies to search or provide a nanny of your choice. Salaries are high , say up to $ 500.00 per week with perks like a living accomodation and free meal etc.
A nanny may perform tasks such as:
- Providing childcare during the hours agreed upon with the employing family
- Supporting the physical, social, emotional, creative, and intellectual development of the children of the family
- Protecting the children of the family from harm and ensuring that they have a safe environment
- Preparing appetizing and nutritionally-balanced meals and snacks to the children of the family
- Maintaining good communication with the parents, informing them of each of their children's development and concerns in behavior
- Maintaining the cleanliness and neatness of the house as affected by the children of the family;
Recently, my friend , D.K.Trehan and his wife, Sheel came from India when their only child and daughter was expecting a child in New Jersey . They have to stay back here for six months taking care of the mother and child. Often, they mentioned their day to day experience and told that it is a tough job especially taking care according to the local norms and standards ( introducing their own old/ traditional way of care is almost impossible ). At the time of their departure, they expressed the relief and their helplessness to stay any longer. Their daughter employed a local nanny for 7AM to 7PM - a young girl of 23 years to take care of the child . They will be paying $500.00 per week and free meals etc.I even suggested them to employ a little aged lady from our community, perhaps could have been better and more reliable.
Davendra K. Gupta
Sunday, May 16, 2010
My sister in USA
It was a surprise call from my daughter, Sapna that I should call Sachin right now. I called him immediately. The call was taken by my younger sister Rajo. It was surprise. She has just arrived USA only yesterday along with her daughter-in-law, Surbhi and her daughter Tuk Tuk from Pune, India. Sachin was already here on an assignment to Microsoft from TCS.
Later, I came to know that Surbhi has also come on an assignment from TCS.
Great opportunity for my sister to visit USA which would not have been possible otherwise. I will seek the possibility of her visiting us in Dublin, Ohio. I t would be nice if she could make it.
I was happy that she has come here and would have an opportunity to look around this country. But at the same time, I was sad as I recollected the memories of her husband , Rajendra. Rajendra spent his whole life as a frustrated and disappointed man. No doubt that he was intelligent and capable person. He would have been a different person provided an opportunity was given to him.I have full respect for him and he too had for me.He died prematurely , did not see the light of the day. The day was rising now with his son well placed, married and successful in career etc. He would have been very happy now on these developments.
However, I wonder, as how she will be to go around alone unless all of them go together. She would have lot of restrictions;
1. language; she may not be to communicate locally to express herself;
2. If both of them are going to work, then she has to look after their child, Tuk Tuk full time as a baby sitter , hence wont be able to get of the home. she may keep herself busy with house hold choirs like cooking, cleaning etc.
3; socialization; social isolation is a normal problem for all of us in USA and Canada , more in USA where every one is busy in his own affairs and prefers to live with himself; 4; Health; for any one, health is a big issue without health insurance. I wish that TCS covers her health insurance as dependent parent.
whatever, I can imagine that she will get tired of this place after some time. After how long , that depends .....
Nanny is a very important person for working parents in USA and Canada ( or perhaps, any where else ) and if there is no body else in the house to look after the child. Nannies may live in or out, like other domestic workers, depending on their circumstances and those of their employers. Most people in Canada and USA like and wish to call their parents to support their children while they are at work. There are so many stories about nannies and their careless handling of the children. However, the parents are helpless if left with no other alternatives but to employ a nanny.
There are several professional agencies to search or provide a nanny of your choice. Salaries are high , say up to $ 500.00 per week with perks like a living accommodation and free meal etc.
A nanny may perform tasks such as:Providing childcare during the hours agreed upon with the employing family Supporting the physical, social, emotional, creative, and intellectual development of the children of the family Protecting the children of the family from harm and ensuring that they have a safe environment Preparing appetizing and nutritionally-balanced meals and snacks to the children of the family Maintaining good communication with the parents, informing them of each of their children's development and concerns in behavior Maintaining the cleanliness and neatness of the house as affected by the children of the family;Parents in USA/Canada, in fact are asset to their children as they not only care the children but also do all other jobs in the house and they are there for 24/7; Some time back, a friend of ours told a story of her experiences living with her daughter and taking care of her children. Point blankly, she told that she has become Nanny from Nani and she no more can withstand the stress and pressure being there.It was not only taking care of the children but doing all the jobs in the house as both the parents were busy whole day. She was more frustrated with the attitude of the parents as they will not be able to take care of the children even after they are back or during holidays. During that time, they were going out for fun, fair and festivals, and parties etc.leaving the children at home under the care of the lady in the house.Got tired and one fine morning moved out to live independently in her own apartment.She further mentioned that was a great relief.
Recently, my friend , D.K.Trehan and his wife, Sheel came from India when their only child and daughter was expecting a child in New Jersey . They have to stay back here for six months taking care of the mother and child. Often, they mentioned their day to day experience and told that it is a tough job especially taking care according to the local norms and standards ( introducing their own old/ traditional way of care is almost impossible ). At the time of their departure, they expressed the relief and their helplessness to stay any longer. Their daughter employed a local nanny for 7AM to 7PM - a young girl of 23 years to take care of the child . They will be paying $500.00 per week and free meals etc.I even suggested them to employ a little aged lady from our community, perhaps could have been better and more reliable.
Later, I came to know that Surbhi has also come on an assignment from TCS.
Great opportunity for my sister to visit USA which would not have been possible otherwise. I will seek the possibility of her visiting us in Dublin, Ohio. I t would be nice if she could make it.
I was happy that she has come here and would have an opportunity to look around this country. But at the same time, I was sad as I recollected the memories of her husband , Rajendra. Rajendra spent his whole life as a frustrated and disappointed man. No doubt that he was intelligent and capable person. He would have been a different person provided an opportunity was given to him.I have full respect for him and he too had for me.He died prematurely , did not see the light of the day. The day was rising now with his son well placed, married and successful in career etc. He would have been very happy now on these developments.
However, I wonder, as how she will be to go around alone unless all of them go together. She would have lot of restrictions;
1. language; she may not be to communicate locally to express herself;
2. If both of them are going to work, then she has to look after their child, Tuk Tuk full time as a baby sitter , hence wont be able to get of the home. she may keep herself busy with house hold choirs like cooking, cleaning etc.
3; socialization; social isolation is a normal problem for all of us in USA and Canada , more in USA where every one is busy in his own affairs and prefers to live with himself; 4; Health; for any one, health is a big issue without health insurance. I wish that TCS covers her health insurance as dependent parent.
whatever, I can imagine that she will get tired of this place after some time. After how long , that depends .....
Nanny is a very important person for working parents in USA and Canada ( or perhaps, any where else ) and if there is no body else in the house to look after the child. Nannies may live in or out, like other domestic workers, depending on their circumstances and those of their employers. Most people in Canada and USA like and wish to call their parents to support their children while they are at work. There are so many stories about nannies and their careless handling of the children. However, the parents are helpless if left with no other alternatives but to employ a nanny.
There are several professional agencies to search or provide a nanny of your choice. Salaries are high , say up to $ 500.00 per week with perks like a living accommodation and free meal etc.
A nanny may perform tasks such as:Providing childcare during the hours agreed upon with the employing family Supporting the physical, social, emotional, creative, and intellectual development of the children of the family Protecting the children of the family from harm and ensuring that they have a safe environment Preparing appetizing and nutritionally-balanced meals and snacks to the children of the family Maintaining good communication with the parents, informing them of each of their children's development and concerns in behavior Maintaining the cleanliness and neatness of the house as affected by the children of the family;Parents in USA/Canada, in fact are asset to their children as they not only care the children but also do all other jobs in the house and they are there for 24/7; Some time back, a friend of ours told a story of her experiences living with her daughter and taking care of her children. Point blankly, she told that she has become Nanny from Nani and she no more can withstand the stress and pressure being there.It was not only taking care of the children but doing all the jobs in the house as both the parents were busy whole day. She was more frustrated with the attitude of the parents as they will not be able to take care of the children even after they are back or during holidays. During that time, they were going out for fun, fair and festivals, and parties etc.leaving the children at home under the care of the lady in the house.Got tired and one fine morning moved out to live independently in her own apartment.She further mentioned that was a great relief.
Recently, my friend , D.K.Trehan and his wife, Sheel came from India when their only child and daughter was expecting a child in New Jersey . They have to stay back here for six months taking care of the mother and child. Often, they mentioned their day to day experience and told that it is a tough job especially taking care according to the local norms and standards ( introducing their own old/ traditional way of care is almost impossible ). At the time of their departure, they expressed the relief and their helplessness to stay any longer. Their daughter employed a local nanny for 7AM to 7PM - a young girl of 23 years to take care of the child . They will be paying $500.00 per week and free meals etc.I even suggested them to employ a little aged lady from our community, perhaps could have been better and more reliable.
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