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Tuesday, November 20, 2012

SENIORS: Care for them

Every living being needs food.. Your aged parents are alive and therefore, they too need it. . But that is not the only thing, they need; They need your love, affection, care and consideration .These are not very expensive. Nor time consuming . Just a casual 'bye dad, eat in time ', while you leave for your office-. you have made his day ! Say a few words about your work or politics or traffic jam, sitting close to his bed. - you have offered a sound sleep for him. How effortless it is, to make the elders happy! My father, after a hard day's work, used to go to his mom, arrange her bed,( though my mom would have already done it) and exchange a few words on topic of interest for her... 'Why is he furnishing an income and expenditure statement?" My mother used to wonder." She should know how much money I make; I am aware of the sleepless nights, she spent worrying about my future ", he would reply.
" Wear your belt, properly, dad.'' My daughter.
" Insert shirt uniformly, dad ?' My daughter in law.
Who bothers if an old man's waist belt skips a few loops or his shirt- folds sink an inch hear and there ? But such alertness of the children and anxiety to see I go out well dressed, give me contentment . While doing pradakshinam in the Guruvayaoorappan temple some time ago, my sister who accompanied me, noticed that the jarigai borders of my veshti were unaligned and admonished me , "anna, you don't even know to wear a veshti correctly." Though she was not far away from truth, I chided her for diverting her attention from the God to my cloth
Later, when I moved away from the magnetic field of attraction of the Divinity, I felt pride in my sister's consideration for me . And that is how the old minds work!
More than food, clothing and shelter, what the elders need is the feeling that they are useful, they are needed, they are not an unwanted appendix for us. The depression created by the feeling that they have no role to play in anyone's life, might even lead to suicide or wander astray, away from home. To avoid that, they have to be entrusted with some small work, which you consider, are easy and safe for them to handle. "
" Appa , please count these notes and give me the figure." You know already the value, but still give him an opportunity to count the currency you have earned. 'amma, keep my food ready, I might come back early today " You repeat the instruction already given to your wife and it is she who is going to keep the food ready. But your demand from your mom excites her; she enjoy musing your young days when you used to go home running from the school shouting, 'Amma, pasikkarathu, I am hungry"
My wife used to consult my mother every morning, 'amma, what to cook today?". The old lady would suggest some menu, the younger one might or might not go by that, the elder one never used to ask for an explanation for the change and in case there were a query, a pleasing answer would have been there.
There is a charm and challenge in raising your children. It is a much easier task to handle the elders.
And of course, elders too should treat the younger ones with affection They should deserve what they desire .
Few points for old/retired people.
(1) Never give opinion to your wards regarding buying house,dress, furniture etc. for they know very well how to manage the show...
Yes! Unless asked .
(2) If possible teach your grand children few Shlok on Lord Vinaayak, Goddess Saraswaeei etc.,.  ...only gently teach them and never force them.
(3) Volunteerly ask son, daughter-in-law whether they require any assistance in attending domestic chores..... mostly they would not like to take help from you. Even we can offer them any financial assistance if we have sufficient bank balance.
(4) Never ask them to buy you any items other than medicines.
(5) Unless asked never bring in topics like your schooling, how you struggled o bring them and all. AND never ask about their salary, bank balance liability etc.
(6) If we old people keep silence and stop asking anything from our children, they will love you.
( taken from a group as I thought to bring it your notice )
 

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

LORD GANESH

108 Names Of Lord Ganesha

No. Name Meaning

1 Akhurath One who has Mouse as His Charioteer
2 Alampata Ever Eternal Lord
3 Amit Incomparable Lord
4 Anantachidrupamayam Infinite and Consciousness Personified
5 Avaneesh Lord of the whole World
6 Avighna Remover of Obstacles
7 Balaganapati Beloved and Lovable Child
8 Bhalchandra Moon-Crested Lord
9 Bheema Huge and Gigantic
10 Bhupati Lord of the Gods

11 Bhuvanpati God of the Gods
12 Buddhinath God of Wisdom
13 Buddhipriya Knowledge Bestower
14 Buddhividhata God of Knowledge
15 Chaturbhuj One who has Four Arms
16 Devadeva Lord of All Lords
17 Devantakanashakarin Destroyer of Evils and Asuras
18 Devavrata One who accepts all Penances
19 Devendrashika Protector of All Gods
20 Dharmik One who gives Charity

21 Dhoomravarna Smoke-Hued Lord
22 Durja Invincible Lord
23 Dvaimatura One who has two Mothers
24 Ekaakshara He of the Single Syllable
25 Ekadanta Single-Tusked Lord
26 Ekadrishta Single-Tusked Lord
27 Eshanputra Lord Shiva's Son
28 Gadadhara One who has The Mace as His Weapon
29 Gajakarna One who has Eyes like an Elephant
30 Gajanana Elephant-Faced Lord

31 Gajananeti Elephant-Faced Lord
32 Gajavakra Trunk of The Elephant
33 Gajavaktra One who has Mouth like an Elephant
34 Ganadhakshya Lord of All Ganas (Gods)
35 Ganadhyakshina Leader of All The Celestial Bodies
36 Ganapati Lord of All Ganas (Gods)
37 Gaurisuta The Son of Gauri (Parvati)
38 Gunina One who is The Master of All Virtues
39 Haridra One who is Golden Coloured
40 Heramba Mother's Beloved Son

41 Kapila Yellowish-Brown Coloured
42 Kaveesha Master of Poets
43 Krti Lord of Music
44 Kripalu Merciful Lord
45 Krishapingaksha Yellowish-Brown Eyed
46 Kshamakaram The Place of Forgiveness
47 Kshipra One who is easy to Appease
48 Lambakarna Large-Eared Lord
49 Lambodara The Huge Bellied Lord
50 Mahabala Enormously Strong Lord

51 Mahaganapati Omnipotent and Supreme Lord
52 Maheshwaram Lord of The Universe
53 Mangalamurti All Auspicious Lord
54 Manomay Winner of Hearts
55 Mrityuanjaya Conqueror of Death
56 Mundakarama Abode of Happiness
57 Muktidaya Bestower of Eternal Bliss
58 Musikvahana One who has mouse as charioteer
59 Nadapratithishta One who Appreciates and Loves Music
60 Namasthetu Vanquisher of All Evils & Vices & Sins

61 Nandana Lord Shiva's Son
62 Nideeshwaram Giver of Wealth and Treasures
63 Omkara One who has the Form Of OM
64 Pitambara One who has Yellow-Coloured Body
65 Pramoda Lord of All Abodes
66 Prathameshwara First Among All
67 Purush The Omnipotent Personality
68 Rakta One who has Red-Coloured Body
69 Rudrapriya Beloved Of Lord Shiva
70 Sarvadevatman Acceptor of All Celestial Offerings

71 Sarvasiddhanta Bestower of Skills and Wisdom
72 Sarvatman Protector of The Universe
73 Shambhavi The Son of Parvati
74 Shashivarnam One who has a Moon like Complexion
75 Shoorpakarna Large-Eared Lord
76 Shuban All Auspicious Lord
77 Shubhagunakanan One who is The Master of All Virtues
78 Shweta One who is as Pure as the White Colour
79 Siddhidhata Bestower of Success & Accomplishments
80 Siddhipriya Bestower of Wishes and Boons

81 Siddhivinayaka Bestower of Success
82 Skandapurvaja Elder Brother of Skand (Lord Kartik)
83 Sumukha Auspicious Face
84 Sureshwaram Lord of All Lords
85 Swaroop Lover of Beauty
86 Tarun Ageless
87 Uddanda Nemesis of Evils and Vices
88 Umaputra The Son of Goddess Uma (Parvati)
89 Vakratunda Curved Trunk Lord
90 Varaganapati Bestower of Boons

91 Varaprada Granter of Wishes and Boons
92 Varadavinayaka Bestower of Success
93 Veeraganapati Heroic Lord
94 Vidyavaridhi God of Wisdom
95 Vighnahara Remover of Obstacles
96 Vignaharta Demolisher of Obstacles
97 Vighnaraja Lord of All Hindrances
98 Vighnarajendra Lord of All Obstacles
99 Vighnavinashanaya Destroyer of All Obstacles & Impediments
100 Vigneshwara Lord of All Obstacles

101 Vikat Huge and Gigantic
102 Vinayaka Lord of All
103 Vishwamukha Master of The Universe
104 Vishwaraja King of The World
105 Yagnakaya Acceptor of All Sacred & Sacrficial Offerings
106 Yashaskaram Bestower of Fame and Fortune
107 Yashvasin Beloved and Ever Popular Lord
108 Yogadhipa The Lord of Meditation

 
  GANPATIBAPA AAP SABHI KI MANOKAMNA PURI KARE!!!!!!!!!!
 
GANPATI BAPA MOURYA!!!!!

Thursday, September 13, 2012

Virendra Singh NEGI

Mr. Virendra Singh Negi was our good friend almost from the beginning we landed in Ibadan , Nigeria. He paased away in November, 2010 after a brief illness of two years; lungs and urinary problems; He was a mechanical engineering graduate of Roorkee University of 1950s. He belonged to DehraDun where he had his lot of property in Karanpur and on Sahstradhara Road - worth crores of Rupees now. He was very hard working, sincere and humble person . In Ibadan, in that Match Factory where he was the Chief Engineer/Head of Technical services, was running the factory almost alone in all capacities. He had very few friends among Indian community but we had very close relationship with him.. He very affectionately cared for us. He had a son, Rajendra, two lovely daughters , Lakshmi and Rukmini; Mrs Negi was very simple and modest lady. The whole family was very nice and caring. We had lots of mutual visits to each others places.
I have been searching him through all the possible sources for years but fortunately, I found Rajendra on Linkedin social network and I was reconnected to his family  just a few days ago. I feel sorry and sad, knowing that Mr. Negi passed about two years ago.I miss him a lot. I wonder he must be passing his time in his retirement without any work.
This morning, I called Rajendra, talked to him and his mother and expressed my feelings about our friend.

Monday, September 10, 2012

SHIV

Please go to the following link to read about Lord Shiva, Shive temples, Jyotirlings, Shiv Puran , importance of Rudrakash, Rudra Abhishekam and many other aspects about HIM including more website links about HIM:

http://sushmajee.com/shiv/index-shiv.htm


and for very comprehensive stuff on religion and spirituality, visit:

www.sushmajee.com

Monday, September 3, 2012

Stories; lesson giving stories

http://sushmajee.com/stories/general/10-akbar.htm
10-Akbar and a Girl Read also   Akbar and Birbal Stories
The emperor Akbar was a very religious king. He used to sit for his Namaaz (Muslim prayer) five times daily. Once when he was traveling. It was time for his prayers, so he spread a sheet by the wayside and sat down to pray.
It so happened that a young girl had promised her lover that she would come to meet him. And the lover had said that if she did not come by a particular hour he would leave. She was late so she ran to the rendezvous point. While running to meet her lover, she stepped on the sheet on which Akbar sat in meditation. Akbar was infuriated and when she returned a few minutes later he accosted her and said in an angry voice - "Can't you see? How dare you step on this sheet?"
The girl said - "I am sorry, but I was in a hurry. I had to meet my lover, I was already late. If I did not meet him on time he would have left. While running I did not notice the sheet. But, by the way what were you doing here on this sheet spreading on the wayside?"
"I was praying ." said Akbar.
The girl said - "Then how did you know that I had stepped on the sheet? It means you were not meditating. Were you with God or were you looking at me?"
REFLECTION
This story shows more devotion of the girl to her lover as she did not know that she stepped on the sheet while less devotion of Akbar who cold know who stepped on his sheet. The devotion means forgetting about everything else, becoming completely lost in one's Isht is true devotion. You cannot reach God like this. There has to be determination. Just catching hold of His feet won't get you anywhere. No one teaches a river how to merge into the ocean. It just rushes and loses itself in the latter's vastness. This too is an important achievement of life. Just as laughing and crying are inseparable parts of life similarly life is incomplete without this fusion. You have to lose yourself completely, only then shall you gain something worthwhile.



Monday, August 13, 2012

Tulsidas Pad: Surrender in the srevice of GOD

jake priya na ram vaidehi
sa chandiye koti bairi sam jadyapi param snehi
tajyo pitaprahlad vibhisan bandhu bharat mahatari
bali guru tajyo kant brajbanitani bhaye muda-mangalakaari
nae neh ram ke maniyat su-hrd su-sevya jahan laun
anjan kaha ankhi phutai bahu tak kahaun kahan laun
tulsi so sab bhanti param hit pujya pran te pyaaro
jason hoya saneh rampad eto mato hamaro 


In the devotion of God, Prahalad desreted his father, Vibhishan his brother, Bharat his mother, Bali his Guru.
People leave dearest and nearest relatives in the service of GODD; Tulsi did not mention the name of Mera who left her husband;

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Born to suffer only; miseries, miseries and miseries only.

A strange but a true story of a person who was born to suffer through out her life. The story is of one of my grandmother who lived very near to us in the main big family house.
Shri Jagan Nath was the second youngest brother among the five brothers of my grandfather . He died very young even before I was born and after his death, his family  met a very tragic end. I was told that he was not smart and very active person with no means of earning.  He was not very capable or able person to do any thing meaningful. He was perhaps the poorest of all his brothers in all respects. Family gave him responsibility of attending social obligations on behalf of the family ( like attending wedding ceremonies, other functions in the community and funerals etc ).
My grandmother was born in another nearby town, Tajpur- a famous Riyast in our region. They were two sisters but with entirely different fate/destiny to live their lives.

Se was married to my grandfather while the other sister was married in a very rich and prosperous family in Bijnor.. Shri Ajit Prasad was the top most lawyer of those days in Bijnor . There is no comparison in the lives of the two sisters. One enjoyed the best of the world while the other suffered through out her life with all kinds of miseries
They had two sons, Krishan Kumar and Om Prakash ( commonly known as OMI ); all their uncles, especially my one of the grandfather, Shri  Bihari Laj ji  ( who retired as Executive Engineer, and nicely settled down in Delhi ) tried to improve them and to educate them but of no avail.  They had very poor IQ and EQ. They did not do any thing in their lives except loafing around and living on the little income they had from their property and support from the family members ( our family  was very strongly bound collective and united family, impossible now to imagine that kind of cooperation and feelings for each other in the family); They lived really in poverty and very miserable conditions; They had very little intelligence, common sense or understanding. All of them in that  family came together having  very poor destiny . My grandmother  had, perhaps the worst kind of fate , never saw any thing good in her life, very pathetic. I never saw her wearing some nice dress, eating good food etc. She struggled through out her life with poverty, starvation and all kinds of miseries.
After having two sons , she became widow at a very young age. She has to bear the responsibility of bring up her two sons alone. They tortured  her through out her life at every stage as they were born with a specific purpose to trouble her and make her life difficult and miserable. She lived in other house of the family though used to come our house on daily basis for some thing or the other. She was comfortable only with our family only.She was never free from problems/troubles. She was very nice person by her nature , very loving and affectionate and soft spoken person.  Though surrounded with all kinds of problems, I never saw her angry or disappointed. I had special consideration for her and great sympathy for her. I always had a desire in my heart if I could help her in any way. I always visited her and asking for her welfare. Her sons used to beat her to extract even the smallest thing she had and used to ask her to come us and ask for the money etc.My own family helped her in all possible way, all the time.
 I never saw her praying or worshiping, going to temple etc.as , perhaps lost her faith in God. I never saw her visiting any other person or family except our family. Almost socially isolated.
Years passed, her sons though now grown up and adults , but never came to age even to help themselves. Always bothering their mother for their needs.

Her younger sister in Bijnor who was very rich and prosperous visited  her very often and wanted to help her every possible way. But according to the social system an elder sister will never take any help from her younger sister, hence my grandmother never took any help from her. She tried to help her sons in all possible ways but of no use and it was kind of never ending.

The last part of her life is really pathetic and worth mentioning here. Baba Har Prasad ji, once came from Muzaffarnagar and scolded Dadi ji that she is the only one who has given her sons undue shelter and support and spoilt them. Let her come with him to live in Muzaffarnagar  leaving them alone behind on their fate. This way they will learn their lesson and will do something to live with out depending on her. Fed up with her situation and every day trouble from her sons, she decided to go with him to Muzaffarnagar for some time After she left they started doing some thing here and there as no options left for them., Krishna Kumar  was working in a watermelon farm as watchman , was caught by LOO ( very hot and dry air during the month of May, causing dehydration and many other ailments to the population ) and ultimately by severe Cholera suffered a terminating situation and died in a very short time , all of a sudden. Due to poor transportation and medical facilities in the town, he could not be given adequate and proper treatment. Perhaps, he could have been saved if timely help was available for him to take him to District Hospital, Bijnor. Unfortunate and helpless situation . ( Perhaps, he was not alone, in those days, how many would have died in the town with out proper or adequate medical facilities ). Dadi ji was called back immediately after his death from Muzaffarnagar , for what, just to mourn her elder son. She was terribly shocked and saddened and was broken down from this event. She was very much unhappy, angry, frustrated and disappointed with every one in the family. She had no option except to accept the fact of the life. Became very quiet and silent , after, she lost her elder son.
My grandfather, assessing the situation  thought perhaps the marriage of the younger one may bring some relief to her and a difference in her life.He  arranged the marriage of Om Prakash, the younger one with a  girl from a village in Garhwal . Our family arranged this marriage ( rather bought that girl for Rupees 5000/-, which was very common practice in those days for the rich people ) . Anandi Chachi was one of the most beautiful girl in our family. She was quite young and certainly no match with Om Prakash uncle who later never cared for her, rather never treated her as his wife, had no love, attraction or association with her. It was his incapability to give any importance to any relationship , not only to his wife. However, it gave some consolation to dadi ji in her grieved situation. She got busy in looking after her with some hope for the future. The burden of expenses, directly and indirectly came to my grandfather.
Time passed and Dadi was blessed with a grandson, very handsome boy . She forgot all the previous sufferings and got busy looking after  the child. She was very happy, satisfied and contended with this changed situation. I used to go very often to meet Dadi ji as I had great sympathy with her and she was also very affectionate to me. She was very glad whenever I visited her. Once, she asked me that I must take care of this boy and develop him. I promised her to do so and she had a trust in me. I also decided that I will do my best to bring up the boy . After a few years, when the boy was about five years old, he got very severe attack of smallpox and died with its complications ( again a case of poor medical care and facilities at home and in the town ). Dadi was shattered and I think completely exhausted with the calamities and miseries of life; tolerated the loss of her husband at her young age; tolerated the death of her adult and fully grown son and now the last hope of the beloved grandson is also gone. After the death of her son, frustrated and ill treated by her husband, Chachi ji went back her home in the hills not o come back again.. Dadi ji was left alone to bear all the sorrows and loneliness. She died soon after that. No one cared for her son , Omi after her death.  He wandered here and there and survived perhaps a few years with bare minimum resources and died in mysterious circumstances. Government did all the last rites. During his last years of life for his survival, he sold out whatever property was left after the death of his mother ( a small house, some shops etc.) .
This is the end of the family  the property and every thing . I do not understand as why GOD punished Dadi ji and that family so much that they never saw any thing good in their life except the troubles, miseries and sorrows all the time. VERY TRAGIC END. I do not understand the purpose of their coming to this world and their existence.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

CANADA, immigration and citizenship etc

It was after our auto accident in 1998 (16th December), Sushma lost her job with AIAG and hence lost our H1B status to work or live in USA. Later we got H1B status through USTI ( Recruiting and Consulting Company of Sanjay Prasad and Rama Kant Singh and Niraj Kumar) but we then decided to immigrate to Canada ( we should have done it much earlier if we would have known the benefits ). Sushma applied for Employment visa as a librarian as she had adequate experience and appropriate qualifications. We had certain advantage of some points to add by getting a letter of employment from Anand Kishore , then a would be relation through our daughter's marriage to his younger brother, Raj Kishore. We got our immigration cleared very fast in a year or less by the end of 1999 except a little problem of health condition of Sushma due to that auto accident but Great person, Dr Shea ( who performed the prosthesis of shoulder surgery ) certified her fitness. Thus a letter of employment from Anand Kishore and a Certificate of fitness from Dr Shae were very useful for this immigration. We must express our gratitude to them. Finally we took our immigration through USA/Canada (Windsor/Detroit) Border in Windsor on March 11, 2000. The process was simple but for our bad luck the concerned officer- the angry girl made it difficult for us by writing a remark on our IM1000 - the immigration document which troubled later at various other processes in Canada.To start with, we had problem at US border and were sent back to Windsor refusing our entry to USA and cancelling our H1B visa.We had to come back and stay in a hotel for that night. Thank God that Sameer and Sapna were around to help us in this uncertain terrible situation. Next day, we moved to Toronto to stay with Suneeta and Akhilesh ji.Who helped us opening our bank account, getting Driving License and applying for SIN ( Social Insurance Number) etc. We finished all the initial and essential formalities.
With time, we managed to get back to USA to wind up from South Field and to live in Windsor in May 2000. Sameer arranged a wonderful apartment; 711-8787 Riverside Drive. We lived at this very comfortable and scenic view location for about two and half years. 2455 Rivard Avenue: Apartment # 523:( October 2002-sept.2009 ): In October , 2002, we moved to this subsidized accommodation for seniors by Essex Windsor County Housing Corporation. We lived on Riverside Drive for $1000/- + apartment because of ignorance and lack of information about it and many other things about the facilities and privileges in Canada. This was for only $234.00 per month , could have been even cheaper if known before.There are several such facilities for seniors in Windsor. But it has sufficient parking space which is not available in other locations.It was a comfortable place and convenient location to live.We had nice company of some Indian families living at this location. 3015 Temple Drive, apartment # 212: ( October 2009.....) It is again with the incidental interaction with Dr. Jwanda who lived in a two bed rooms apartment in a neighbourhood similar kind of facilities.He told me that  there are about three or four such facilities with two bed rooms for the seniors with the same rent but with a certificate of medical conditions. With a medical certificate from Dr. Joshi, our family physician, we applied for this facility and we got it very soon. this is known as accessible facility with two bed rooms and specially designed facilities for handicapped persons.It is a small facility with 64 apartments, most of them single bed room and perhaps only two accessible.Very neat, clean and well maintained building by the Church which constructed and maintains it. It certainly needs personal transport facility as shopping facilities are at least two miles away from here . We like this place for nice and quiet living.We could have got this spacious apartment much earlier but for information. One of the reason could be our very limited social network in Canada. We do not have colleagues or friends here as we are very late comers and due to our limitation for age also.
We have been living here as permanent residents and later as Canadian Citizen since we moved here. We always had our proper permanent residence with Telephone, TV and internet cable facilities, bank accounts, maintaining an Ontario registered car and a valid driving license , working as the secretary of SASCO a non-profit organization, volunteering for annual tax preparation for CRA , visiting our Clinic regularly as I am a patient for High Blood pressure for long time and my wife for Arthritis etc, But we had always problem with Canadian authorities at every stage of getting citizenship, OHIP card, Old Age Security pension and lastly even with my driving license. I wonder why We ? At every stage, we have to explain our situation: Ontario Disability Support Program:ODSP: We never knew about social assistance program in Canada , its entitlement and eligibility etc. For the first time, Mrs Aggarwal ( wife of Prof. A.K.Aggarwal, University of Windsor) mentioned about it and asked us to apply for the same.It is again  an example of social networking and social capital benefits. We had very good social contact with Prof Aggarwal during our early years in Windsor. In fact, they were also quite new in Windsor. Well, we got it which continued till we started getting our OASP. This was very good help to us for our survival in Canada.  
OHIP: Ontario Health Insurance Program: Wonderful program to look after the health of Ontario residents. At one point of time, our OHIP cards were cancelled with the allegations that we do not live here. We have to visit the office of the Ministry of health to explain our situation of residency here. With all the documentation required, we had to go through a lengthy interview to convince the authorities to get our OHIP cards back to us. But could not understand as why they bothered us and wasted our and their own time?
Citizenship: Normally, most people get their citizenship just after completing three years of residency but we got it almost after six years with lot of queries and lengthy questionnaire. All about doubting that we were not residents of Canada; Even an hearing with an immigration judge, Mr walker who grilled us thoroughly doubting about our residency but with all the evidence and documentation, we convinced about our residency in Canada. Mr. Walker was nice person , understood our situation and cleared our case. In fact, we have to request our MP, Mr.JOE CoMartin. who intervened and asked the immigration department to look into our case. But, here again I have to say as why we should have gone through this tedious process and unnecessary grilling ?.  
Old Age Security Pension: In most of the cases, approval of OASP is the straight forward case but in our case, this also took lot of time and explaining many unnecessary things. Doubting our status and period of our residency etc.It took long time through tedious process and explaining several things.Perhaps,the note on our IM1000 documentation by the immigration officer, created the doublt at every stage.The pension  amount is very good for our survival in Canada.  
Driving License: Lastly in 2012, I had the problem about my driving license; Unfortunately, I had an auto accident in Windsor in August 2011 which caused me to take driving test again as it happens for the seniors after the age of 70 years. It was a terrible experience to take my test, driving lessons etc after I failed my tests and my driving license was cancelled. I have written a separate blog about it.
 Though we  had some rough time over here ; we never got any kind of employment; not even some satisfying volunteering work over here; Canada is a wonderful country to live especially for the retired people where seniors get lot of benefits. Good medical and housing facilities and very friendly environment.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

MARRIAGE

Marriage : An entry into the dignified family life.VIVAH Sanskar  has the greatest significance among the sixteen sanskaras of Vedic origin. The main purpose of marriage is to pay Pitri Rin from among the three Rin we are born with. They are Dev Rin which is paid by doing Yagya, Brahm Rin which is paid by studying Ved, and Pitri Rin which is paid by producing children to extend our family. Raising a family also opens up our KARMA Kshetra by taking responsibility of the family and perform our duties. Each member of the family has his own duties and actions to perform and they cannot be performed unless he is in a familial relationship. GOD has created this institution to keep His creation to continue for ever and for the success of this institution, HE has created very strong forces which drive even the strangers of opposite sex to accept this relationship leaving their own families, come very close to each other and raise  a family of their own.  This relationship is durable and strong to have  a family and children. Interpersonal relationships are intimate and mutually accepted.
People are supposed to follow the code of conduct towards the family and the society of which they are the members. This code of conduct was designed by our ancestors keeping in view the aspects of religion and spirituality and four Ashrams, especially of Grahasth Ashram (normally during the age 25-50 years).
 Most people marry except a few to keep the creation going on. Marriages are performed with certain rituals according to the faith (Hindu, Muslim, Christian etc) of individuals. Through this Sanskar, we accept the principles of religion and authority of GOD.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Bhisham Pitahmaha of Mahabharat

Look at the life of this great personality of Mahabharat. Upto the age of 16years he remained away from his father and family  under the care of his mother only ; did his usual education etc. Joined his father and family and after a short while, he has to sacrifise his crown, youth and rest of the life for his father and family and took a vow to take care of the crown, and Hastinapur.Just after a few years , his father died and he has to take care of the crown, step mother and step brothers and later their children and family etc.Looked after them, family and the crown etc. He has to struggle through out his life to take care of all of them even at the cost of his principles and moral.
In our present society , do we see such things even for our own parents, brothers leave aside the step mother and brothers and family .

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Sadhu and Samdhi

Relationships are established and maintained by constant and continuous association. There may be others but I feel that Sadhu and Samdhi are no relationships. SADHU: sisters are married and they are related to each other from childhood and by virtue of that relationships their husbands become relatives to each other.( kind of compulsive relationship; neither established nor maintained ) !!! Relationship is known as sadhu : not a well defined and established relationship - a very casual relationship with almost no contact or association-- very very formal relationship.For the younger sister, the husband of the elder sister is known as Jijaiji, seems to be some what established relationship but how the husband of the younger sister is related and known to the elder sister ( no established relationship is known )? very very formal, fragile and delicate relationship. SAMDHI: Similarly, Samdhi is no relationship; fathers of groom and bridegroom ( two strange persons likely to join in very close conjugal relationship for the rest of the life ) are known as samdhi almost non-existent relationship. A relationship merely for a formality sake. They were not known before the marriage of their children and never meet after the marriage in future except only on a very few formal occasions. For any kind of relationship, association is the most important thing and association can be established among the persons even without a formal relationship (most of the friends are in this category) . Once the association is established, relationship is automatically established.

Monday, May 28, 2012

Girls in a traditional Indian family

A girl right from the birth itself grows in a controlled environment under the protection, care and guidance of her parents and family members.Later influenced by her school and neighbouring environments, she develops local characteristics. Development , progress and career advancement etc. of a girl in a traditional Indian family depend upon the family she is born in. A girl progresses in her life according to the environment of the family; picks up the language, food habits and general behavioural patterns , religious beliefs , rituals and many more things from her family. Most of it is adopted from the family and its environment.It is known as conditioning. Before the marriage, a girl learns most of the things from the family and takes the physical, intellectual and spiritual shape of the life . Before marriage, she is matured enough to understand the basics of living a life and dealing the various aspects within a society. It is like a river , which takes its colour , taste , depth , currents and speeds etc. from its environment through which it flows and goes on changing as it progresses on its path of the journey . A small river merges with a big river in its course of journey and big river merges with a mighty river and finally mighty river merges with the ocean. The notable point here is that a small river looses all its characteristics when it merges with the big river and takes the characteristics of the big river. For example , a big river, like Yamuna when merges with mighty river Ganga in Allahabad, it looses its colour, depth, taste , currents and speed and even known no more as Yamuna but only Ganga for the rest of its course. Ganga, similarly looses everything when it merges ocean in the Bay of Bengal. Simply it is completely merged ( yeh vileen ho jaati hai) having no identity or no name of its own . Same thing happens to a girl after the marriage. She adapts everything of in-laws family. She changes the whole life style what she had from her parental family. Though it is not easy but it is necessary, natural and normal . Ocean does not come to the river, it is only the river which after completing its course in a particular environment, goes to the ocean. For the rest of the course of the life, a girl must adapt and completely merge with the in-laws family. ( for food habits, language, culture, religion, beliefs and rituals etc.) In western societies or even now in our Indian modern societies, everyone wants her own identity and individual life style and hence the problems in the marital life , the family and the society.

DRIVING Test;

I had my Road Driving Test on 12/12/2011 2nd time after I passed my first test in first attempt in 1995 in Michigan. I failed here miserably. My G is reduced to G1 means I can not not drive alone - like a learner. I have to call Sushma at home to arrange some one to accompany me from the Driving Test office . It was a Hazel; she could get Pankaj and Sudha Mehta who got me back home. But this was an alarming situation. We do not have many friends here who could be called when needed and children living in USA far distance away and more over they have their own plans/programs; They can not manage our problems while we have been living here in Canada . ??????
I had my another driving test on 27 January, 2012; failed again; with the help of Usha Grace Peter, Her friend, Lueba accompanied me to the test centre. I took my three hours road driving training practice session with Ontario Driving school prior going to test. Mr. Shameem Khan was a good trainer, I learned and practiced a few things. It was useful training. In the test, I thought that everything is right but ultimately, perhaps, I failed for my silly mistake as I stood waiting behind a transport bus in front of the drive way blocking the traffic. I wonder as how long this is going to be. Perhaps, they are too strict with the seniors as it is either fail or pass for G , no G2.I am a little bit disappointed.
27th February; I took a few lessons for practice on road from Saad and Shameem and I was quite confident this time but failed again with the same strict examiner; This time a pedestrian appeared like a devil creating a situation for me. Yesterday, I was nervous and under tension though tried to relax but could not; I am relaxed again considering that GOD has certain designs/ plans of his own for my betterment. April 24, 2012; My fourth Test was on 24th April, 2012. I was quite tensed as I failed three previous tests for trivial mistakes and mostly because of the bias for the seniors. The examiners are really very strict with the seniors and I feel they harass them. Any way, to day's examiner was a nice person - a very considerate lady. She declared me PASSED with compliments that I did very well; A big relief. I should express my thanks to Luba also - a friend of Usha who accompanied me to the Driving Test Centre. I am seriously thinking to write about my experience to CARP so that if they think it appropriate, they can take the matter with the ministry of Transport to provide some alternatives and relief to the seniors.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Women in Traditional Society of India

Women traditionally ( especially in conservative/traditional Indian society ) are dependent on men. Before marriage, a girl for her development, progress and career etc. mostly depends on her father or alternatively on her brother(s). After marriage , she is dependent on her husband; If husband dies, a widow depends on her son (s) or alternatively on her brother (s) . So, in fact, she is never independent, can not survive without appropriate support of men.But not true any more in the modern society, may be soon with time, situation may reverse when men will become dependent on women.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Rajendra Pal Bansal

Rajendra was unique in himself; He was intelligent but desperate and frustrated person in life because he never got right opportunities because of his limitation , family background at the time he was born in that family. Circumstance did not allow him to grow and progress according to his ability and capability.His father had little to offer him or to any child as his condition then was very poor with very limited resources. What Rajendra came to be, it was his own effort and destiny.Rajo was certainly very fortunate to be his wife and to be in that family.He felt left out, unfortunate and disappointed and frustrated through out his life.
Drinking and smoking excessively was the outcome of that frustration. I and Rajendra had very good understanding of each other while all others misunderstood him including his own family members. I will ever remain under obligation to him as he kept my sister much more better way than she deserved.He took especial care of my daughter, Sapna, perhaps more than his own children. She is what she is because of him.I can never be free from his debt and obligation. We had great mutual respect for each other.
He died prematurely just before his retirement ( He could have retired from Bina near Jhansi ). I feel very sorry about if as this was the time that he could enjoyed his life very well especially with the progress of Sachin.In fact, Drinking took his life breaking down the whole system of his body especially the kidney , liver and diabetes. Lately he improved a lot in his life style but during the last phase of his life, he was left alone after the birth of Tuk Tuk (Avani ) daughter of Sachin. Rajo remained behind in Pune while he has to go back to his job , not to return to anywhere.He felt isolated, started excessive drinking and smoking without any proper food etc; got weak and his system started collapsing, one day he fell down from the staircase which could have been ordinary thing in normal circumstances but in this case , he was injured and never got cured rather got worst and worst, finally shifted to GangaRam Hospital, Delhi. It was too late. He struggled there alone with limited care whatever Rajo could give him during his last days.
Rajendra will always remain in my memory.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Prarabhadh

This is subject which has been discussed very widely in many discussion groups. Fate or Free will, Destiny or Destination etc. I just want to put my thoughts in a very simple way;

A person is born in a particular family, community and society;
A person is born as male or female;
A person is born in a particular place, a village, town, city, India, Ethiopia, Nigeria or America etc;
A person is born in a desert, an island, mountain .... later, even migrates from one place to another according to his circumstances;
A person is born to be a specific professional- a doctor, engineer, scientist, businessman, or an ordinary laborer; a butcher, hangman, Priest ....
A person is born as a beggar or a rich, a king or a minister, a President or a doorkeeper etc.
A person is born as a believer or nonbeliever; a christian or a Hindu or in a tribal with no faith or religion etc; or later, even may change his alliance from one faith to another;
Thus a person is born in any dual situation which may even be changing from time to time;

But certainly, one has no choice to choose his parents and his siblings though later he has the choice to maintain the relationship with any one around.
Therefore, one thing is very clear and certain that in many ways, one does not have a choice what to be or not to be. That establishes the concept of PRARABDH (cumulative results of our actions in past lives) and one is born as he is born to some one, in some place at some time etc. Later also, most of his actions are governed by his DESTINY / Fate etc. which is controlled by his Prarabdh though individual feels that he is what he is because of his own actions and choice etc.

A few example may be cited here;
Ms Sonia was married to Rajeev Gandhi in Gandhi-Nehru family to be Sonia Gandhi - to be what she is to day;
Accordingly RAHUL JI is born to be what he is to be destined....
While poor Sanjay Gandhi died prematurely...
Obama was destined to be, what he is today.

In fact, all of us are living our life, short or long, which is already destined, or what we are supposed to be and to be doing...

Monday, February 6, 2012

Living and working in Jungle and desert

Most people know about forest and desert only from their geography text books,but only a few would have seen them (except those who live there ). Both of these environments are very harsh and difficult to live and work in . Going for fun and pleasure like for hunting or safari etc. is another thing as their routes and areas are well defined and people are escorted by those people who are accustomed and familiar of those areas.Only a very few are privileged who have not only seen them but lived and worked there. I am one of those privileged one. The Forest: The thick and deep forests of Doon Valley and Nainital valley are not easily accessible to common men.It was 1963-64 GM Part # UP13 of ONGC which was working in Nainital, Pilibhit area.In that forest area, our first main camp was in Khatima- a well populated town but adjacent to the forest.The Banbasa area of the forest is very thick. Inside the forest, sunlight can hardly be seen, it is all dark surrounded by tall trees and creepers on them.No routes or roads except a few identification marks of survey of India. If you are lost, you are lost, nobody to guide you to come out. The forest is full of wild animals- tigers, leopards, wild cats, dogs, boars, elephants, bears and several others and variety of birds flying around.The forest is noisy when it is windy or perfect silent at other times.Our second partial camp was in Banbasa very near to Sharda canal/dam ( the canal was mostly constructed under the execution of my grandfather, Shri Bihari Lal Gupta during British regime ). The main population of this locality was of THARU tribe ( very beautiful and handsome people with free life style ). Our camp was just at the edge of the forest and our most of the work was inside the thick forest.The wild animals I mentioned earlier on were seen almost on daily basis. They used to visit our camp though our camp was well protected by guards and continuous burning fire and lights to keep them away. This was real and fantastic unique experience impossible to get even for the people who live in that neighbourhood. Living and working was very tough but I enjoyed it and I remember it so fondly.We encountered all kinds of problems, loosing our directions, breakdown of our vehicles, trapped in the Forest in late hours.Every day was full with fear and uncertainty and of course with new experience.But, I am sure that you can not get this kind of experience at any cost. Doon Valley Forest:( 1965-66): Forest starts right from Mohand where we had our first camp just at the edge of the forest and a valley of hilly flowing river.Second camp was in Biharigarh on the other side of the valley. The forests had a few huts here and there where some tribes ( muslim banjaras ) were living in small groups.Who were they? , how were they living there? , their life styles etc. I tried to know about them but that would be too much to describe here. I may write about it seperately somewhere else.From both the camps , we were doing our work for ELECTRICAL Exploration for ONGC.This was even harder work what I did in Banbasa area.The work was done in the isolated valleys in the thick forests during the nights only.It was a tougher job in the rough hilly valleys and stony river lets and also with the fear of wild animals though we were protected with lights and fire etc.This was a different kind of unique experience not only living but working in the forest areas. THAR Desert: Difficult to imagine the natural environment of a desert and especially of our famous desert of THAR in Rajasthan.One could know the geography of the desert from the standard text books but not the real conditions which are harsh, unimaginable and monotonous etc.Indian Railways operates up to Jaisalmer only - a tourist point- a big city established by the kings of that time ; has all facilities for the tourists ( a must place to visit ); from Jaisalmer to Ramgarh is a tar road; a bus operates on that route , not sure about the frequency, perhaps once in a week or so; Ramgarh is the last village with a population of few hundreds.From Ramgarh to Longenwala via Gamnewala is a sand-tar road constructed by military now. At the time, we were working there, there was nothing after Ramgarh except high sand dunes mostly naked without even a bush.Area after Ramgarh is real desert only with shifting high sand dunes, no bush, no tree or any kind of vegetation. In this area you travel just in wilderness.These places known as Gamnewala, Longenwala, Ghotaru and Shahgarh etc. are known as halting places for the nomades as these places have the water wells.Ghotaru even does not have a well but a flat gravel spread without much sand. This was the place about 200 miles from Jaisalmer, deep in the desert and very near to the Pakistan border.We used to change our mud tread tires to sand tread tires in Ramgarh so that our high power vehicles could track the sand dunes. ( one simply can not travel in this area with ordinary and normal vehicles .This area is simply impossible to access for the civilians and most people even living in Rajasthan can not think of visiting this area. No tracks, no directions, no identifications, even the sand dunes are sifting ones, to day, they were here to morrow, they would be somewhere else.It is due to our drivers who knew every inch of this area, we could travel inside the desert.Inside, there is no living being, a fly, mosquito etc. but variety of scorpions including the flying ones every where.;pin drop silence as nothing to make sound or noise.The sand in this area does not move but runs during the day time when the temperatures during 11am to 4pm. are very high and simply not tolerable and in the night freezing. I lived and worked in that area for about five months.A very unique experience of living and working with a few people living in the camp. our camp was very near to Pakistan border , therefore, most of the labourers were from the nearby areas of Pakistan.Our camp guard/watchman, Karima, invited me several times to his village in Pakistan.Karima was very honest and sincere person to the core. Seismic work was done mostly in the night . The work was really very tough.It was possible only due to good team work and hard working local people.The limited source of water was only from Longenwala well which was about 50 miles from our camp.Living in an isolated, rough place with limited facilities in the hostile environment is an experience in itself. However,I never felt bad about it rather enjoyed being in the typical and unique situation. It is hard to visualize or conceptualise the situation or environmental conditions of that place. Just imagine as how one could manage day to day affairs of living- bread and butter for breakfast,something for lunch or dinner, without any market nearby ( nearest for limited things was Jaisalmer about 200 miles- one full day for going there only ). We had powerful generators, therefore we enjoyed certain luxury of having light, referigirator and air conditioned office and wireless system for communication even in the far remote area of the desert.But what about those poor people born, brought up and living in that place?.They were deprived from those technological advances and advantages.These technological advances and advantages are again for those privileged people again living in posh urban areas.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

TALKING THALI

This article is reproduced from;

http://devdutt.com/the-talking-thali/

The Talking Thali

Jan 16, 2012 | Filed under Articles, Myth Theory.

Published in First City, Dec. 2011



The best way to destroy a culture is to destroy the kitchen. For it is in the kitchen that a language is spoken that addresses the eye, the ear, the nose, the tongue and even the skin, all five senses, something that all of us are exposed to since childhood but few of us realize. By cooking Chinese food in the Chinese way,the Chinese mother makes her child Chinese. By cooking Zulu food in the Zulu way, the Zulu mother makes her child Zulu.

No child is born with an understanding of culture. As the child grows up his mind is shaped by thoughts of those around. But these thoughts are not necessarily communicated through words, and certainly not the written word. What the mind receives are not instructions but patterns. And patterns have always been communicated through symbols, stories and rituals. The kitchen is full of symbols and rituals that shape the mind of the child. Change these symbols and rituals and you change the thoughts of the children and with it the culture of an entire community. It is a surprising fact that this has not been realized or noticed by child psychologists. Perhaps the humble kitchen as a place of learning seems to be far fetched for the modern mind.

A traditional Indian kitchen was a sacred space. It was decorated with auspicious signs. Sometimes, it doubled up as the puja room. In many households, you are not allowed to enter the kitchen with footwear, you are expected to bathe before lighting the kitchen fire, you are not allowed to eat unless you have taken a bath – all this clearly gave the child a message, food is not just for filling the stomach, food is something special and sacred, the offerings of the yagna of life. Without food, there is no existence. Today, the kitchen is changing in character. The aim is to create a kitchen that is highly efficient and effective and sanitized to satisfy the needs of the working couple. It almost seems like a factory: a good fridge, a good dishwasher, pressure cooker, gadgets to mix and grate and pound and mince, microwaves to quickly heat food. It is clean and quick, everything wrapped in foil and plastic, no stains, no smells, no vapors. What is the message? Cooking is a chore, an industrial activity, food is merely nourishment for the body, of functional value primarily.

What changed the kitchen from temple to factory? Is it the rise of secularism that saw food scientifically and rejected all sacred notions as silly superstition? Is it the rise of feminism, the Western variety, which saw the kitchen as a prison created by men for women? Kitchen duties, once the soul of the household, became a burden. There is a desperate need for quick solutions – easy to cook food, ready made food, outsourced food, food cooked by a cook, to liberate the lady of the household. Food ordered from outside has become more exciting than boring daily kitchen fare. The message: everything can be outsourced, everything can be industrialized, even the hearth.

It is in the kitchen that the Indian child learns the concept of ‘jhoota’ of pollution; how food that has been tasted by someone else spoils the food. One never tastes food while cooking and one never offers tasted food to the gods. Eating ‘jhoota’ food is a sign of love and subservience; we eat the ‘jhoota’ of gods and elders. In a Chinese kitchen, the child learnt how using chopsticks is the sign of civilization; only barbarians used hands, knives and forks. They learnt how a good cook always cuts food in tiny pieces so that they are chopstick-friendly. In a Roman kitchen, the child learnt that it was a luxury to be eat food while lying down. In India, eating while lying down was akin to show disrespect to food.

In the Indian kitchen, the child learnt to value approximation over exactness. Cooks never measured the quantity of salt to be added; it was all by judgment, salt to taste. Recipes were never written down but passed down through apprenticeship. One figured out proportion visually, by seeing the amount of food before, and through smell, never taste. Cooking therefore had to be creative, demanding opening up of other senses, beyond the taste buds. The cook was expected to rely on his eyes and ears and finger tips and nose, anything but the mouth. The absence of recipes indicated to the child that life was not about formulas. You had to work with what you had and be creative at it. It also meant that wisdom could not be stored outside human beings, in documents. The dish had no independent existence outside the cook. When the mother died, the particular taste of her dal went with her.

The masala box is a powerful tool to explain adjustments and accommodation. Every masala box had the same ingredients – but the proportions used by different cooks created different flavors. Bad food could be made good by adding another spice. Thus everything could be managed, with a little bit of creativity. With ready made masala packets coming in, the tastes are getting increasingly standardized, a sign of what may be called Westernization.

In most parts of the world, people sat around the hearth and ate around it. In deserts, meat cooked over the fire was cut and served on flat bread. In cold climates, a pot hung over the hearth around which the family gathered. Whatever was caught and collected during the day was put in the pot – thus was born the soup and the broth, to be eaten with bread. In Islamic countries, food was served on a single dish to evoke equality and brotherhood. In Punjab, the notion of a collective oven to make bread created the romantic notion of ‘sanjha choolah’ where women gathered to gossip and bake bread at dusk just as they gathered around the well at dawn. In China, eating together with all dishes placed in the center, was a sign of unity. In Europe, food was served initially in the centre of the table and you ate what you could reach or was passed on to you by your neighbor – the precursor of buffet food, where each one is for himself, though everyone has access to bounty. Later, as manpower was increasingly available in rich households, food started being served by servants. In the 16th century, eating with forks and knives gained popularity; before that,all was finger food. How you ate food and your understanding of subtle flavors and aromas became a measure of your aristocracy.

In India, food was always served on a thali, either made of leaves (organic hence disposable) or metal (inorganic hence needed to be washed). Everyone ate in separate utensils, to reinforce the idea of ‘jhoota’. The women served the food. The men of the household ate first, then the children and finally the women. This was hierarchy established. Good food in India had much to do with caste hierarchy: food cooked in ghee, and by Brahmins, was highly prized, resulting in the employment of the ‘maharaj’ in royal and affluent households. The cook in these places had a higher station than the members of the household and so had a greater control over the kitchen fire than even the women of the household.

In most cultures, feasts are associated with festivals and rites of passage such as marriage, childbirth and the end of bereavement. Food was a powerful tool to establish religious and communal identity. Kosher food ensured that the Jewish people retained their identity as they wandered the world seeking a home. In Muslim households, the holy month of Ramzan is marked by fasting by day and feasting at night; everyone breaks the fast with dates on sighting of the moon. In many Christian households, during Lent no egg, or fish, is eaten leading to large consumption of eggs after Easter. Hindus become strict vegetarian either in the month of Shravan or the month of Kartik. Sour food is not eaten on Fridays to remind the household of Santoshi, the goddess of satisfaction. The kitchen fires are not used for several days when a death occurs in the family. Hindus offer Shiva raw milk, Krishna butter, while the goddess is offered lime. Thus through rites and ritual, food comes to acquire meaning.

The way food is eaten also has impact on the way we think. Imagine eating a proper four course meal: first there is the soup, then the salad, then the main course and finally desert. Everything is controlled and sequential. Now imagine eating a thali: everything served simultaneously, the salad, the rice, the roti, the curries, the sweets, even the chutneys and papad. The Western meal is served in a linear way while the Indian meal is served in a cyclical way. The movement of the hand in Western food as the meat is cut and forked, is highly linear while the finger moves circularly while tearing the roti or mixing the rice. The Indian dishes are not eaten individually but have to be mixed, a practice that is uniquely Indian. So in Western cuisine, we taste what the cook serves but in Indian cuisine we taste our own mixture. This is the height of customization. Could this be the reason why Indians are so individualistic and resist working in a team as a group?

GAYA Yatra

Gaya Shrardham

Gaya being located in is a Shrraddha Bhoomi. The place where we were asked to stay is managed by a Gujarati lady who also speaks Tamil. We experienced continuous power cuts, no sun- light in bathrooms, inadequate water in Gaya( Lallu Prasad Yadav's Rajyam) (almost zero water for those who preferred to enter bath rooms at the end) (power cut also compounded the problem of not having water in overhead tank). We were also told Phalguni river is having knee deep water only and only Brokshanam is possible. Gaya is a holy place revered by Hindus and Buddhists alike. While to Hindus, it is the footprint of Vishnu (the Vishnu Padam), the Akshaya Vatam and the chance of performing the Vedic rites not just for 3 generations of ancestors, but anyone and everyone that attracts them to Gaya, for Buddhists it is the sacred Banyan tree under which the Buddha attained enlightenment. Indeed the regular influx of Buddhists from all over the world has made Bodh Gaya a tourist spot in Bihar, and a tourist attraction with all kind of facilities, something like an oasis in the heart of a desert!

Gaya is all about legends, and there are legends connected to every temple there and every rite that is performed.

Let me start with the name of the place. 'Gaya'. According to the legend, there was once an Asura named Gayasuran, who was a great devotee of Vishnu. When the Devas couldn’t bear the trouble he caused any more, they went to Vishnu and asked for a way out. Vishnu approached Gayasuran and told him that He wanted to perform a special yagna, and wanted a special place to perform it. Gayasuran offered his heart, and Vishnu accepted. The yagna began, and soon, the fumes and the heat became unbearable, and Gayasuran started succumbing to it. Vishnu asked him for his final wish, and Gayasuran asked that the place he died would be immortalized by his name, and hence the name ‘Gaya’. Second, he asked that people should be allowed to perform the sacred rites (Pinda pradaanam) not only for their ancestors, but for anyone- family, distant relatives, friends and foes, non-Hindus, pets, unclaimed bodies- in short, for any dead human/creature they could think of. This remains the only place where Pinda pradaanam is carried out in this manner. In fact, I am told that in a normal Shrraddham , 6 pindams are made (two for each generations which are no more); in a Teertha Shrraddham , as at Kashi, Allahabad, Rameswaram, etc., 16 pindams are offered, including all ancestors on both parents side; in the Gaya Shrraddham, 64 pindams are offered, of which 16 are for the mother alone, since she carries her child for 9 whole months within her body, 16 for the ancestors, and 16 for all others as I have mentioned earlier. Of course, all this is a matter of faith and belief, but what is there in life if we don’t have faith? Anyway, once Vishnu granted his wishes, he stepped on him with his foot, leaving a footprint at this holy place, and granting liberation to Gayasuran. It is this footprint which is worshipped as the Vishnu Padam. For the information of devotees, I must mention that for a fee of Rs.50/- an imprint of the Padam is taken on a muslin cloth and given. This is to be kept in the Puja room and is considered very auspicious.


1. Phalguni (Falguni) Teertha Snana Maha Sangalpam
2. Phalguni (Falguni) Teertha Snanam by way of bringing water from the river in sombu and brokshanam
3. Phalguni Hiranya Shrraddham (this is the traditional Shrraddham performed on the banks of any sacred river, here the Falguni.)
4. Shethra Pinda dhanam(17) (given to cow later)
5. Thila tharpanam
6. Vishnu Paada Hiranya Shrraddham †
7. Pinda prathanam ( 64 Pindams for those who have lost mother also; if mother alive 48 pindams)
8. Shethra Pinda Dharisanam at Vishnu Patham
9. Mathru Shodacee(not applicable to those whose mother is alive)
10. Akshaya Vata Anna/Hiranya Shrraddham † (with anna Shrraddham ) with homam
11. Akshaya Vata Pinda Pradaanam ** †
12. Shethra Pinda dhanam
13. Mathru Shodacee(not applicable to those whose mother is alive)
14. Thirupthi Dhakshinai Ask Gaya Brahmans if they are satisfied (according to legend, the Brahmins at Gaya are not easily satisfied and it is a tradition to ask them anyway in an attempt to satisfy them)
Acharya sambhavana (payment of the fees to the pundit)
15. Saka-Pathra-Ful- Dharisanam(Oru kai-Ilai-Pazham viduthal)
16. Bhodhi Vruksha Dharisanam
The next legend concerns the Falguni (or Falgu) river. There is knee deep water in the river at Gaya, though apparently, there is water upstream as well as downstream. It is clear that there is water under the ground, because, even as one digs into the ground with ones fingers, water appears. This is apparently because of a curse on the river. The story goes that Rama, along with his brothers and Sita, came to Gaya to perform the sacred rites for his father, Dasaratha. When the brothers were bathing in the river, Sita was sitting on the banks, playing with the sand. Suddenly, Dasaratha appeared out of the sand, and asked for the Pindam, saying he was hungry. Sita asked him to wait till his sons returned, so that she could give him the traditional Pindam of rice and til. He refused to wait, asking her to give him pindams made of the sand in her hand. Having no other option, she gave him the Pindam he desired with five witnesses – the Akshaya Vatam, the Falguni River, a cow, a Tulsi plant and a Brahmin. Soon, Rama returned and started the rituals. In those days apparently, the ancestors would arrive in person to collect their share, and when Dasaratha did not appear, they wondered why. Sita then told them what had happened, but Rama could not believe that his father would accept pindams made of sand. Sita now mentioned her witnesses, and asked them to tell Rama the truth. Among the five, only the Akshaya Vatam took her side and told the truth, while the others lied, trying to take Rama’s side. In her anger, Sita cursed all of them thus: the Falguni river henceforth would have no water at Gaya; the Cow would no longer be worshipped from the front as all others are- only its backside would be worshipped; there would be no more Tulsi plants at Gaya and the Gaya Brahmins would never be satisfied, they would always be hungry and crave more and more. She then blessed the Akshaya Vatam saying that all who came to Gaya would perform the Pinda pradaanam at the Akshaya Vatam too.

Other temples in the vicinity are the Sakshi Gopal temple and the Mangala Gowri Temple, which is among the Shakti peethams. By the time Shrraddham was over, it was about 4.30 pm. we left Gaya around 5.30 Pm after visiting Bodh Gaya and reached Varanasi around 11.30 Pm. The roads were excellent thanks to National Highway Authority roads improvement programme of Govt. of India. Since one of the vehicles developed a snag, we had to wait for some time enroute.
BODH GAYA
We worship Dhakshinamurthy,Guru or preceptor. A preceptor is more than a teacher, for he not only teaches us things that extends our knowledge, but also those that enrich our lives, and make out life worth living. One of these was the Buddha. Whether we consider Him simply as a Buddhist guru, or the ninth avatar of Vishnu, it remains a fact that He was one of the greatest teachers of all time, and his legacy lives on today in the hearts of millions, some his followers, some simply his admirers. I take the opportunity to write an article on Gaya, one of the places most closely associated with the Buddha. Sanjay & Siddhu can be asked to go through this portion.
Bodh Gaya is about 18 Kms from Gaya. This is where Buddha came in quest of knowledge, and where he finally was enlightened. This is, truly, the birth place of Buddhism. There are, in all, seven sacred places for Buddhists, all associated with the life of Buddha. These are:

1. Lumbini – his birthplace, now in Nepal
2. Kapilavastu – his kingdom, also in Nepal
3. Bodh Gaya – where he attained enlightenment, in Bihar
4. Sarnath – where he gave his first discourse, in UP
5. Shravasti – where he taught many of his students, near Lucknow
6. Rajgir – where he loved when he fell ill, in Bihar, 80 Kms from Gaya
7. Kushinagar – where he breathed his last, in Bihar.


Buddha spent 6 weeks at Gaya. The first week he spent under the Bodhi tree, the second inside the temple, the third near a lake (it is said that when he placed a foot on the water, a lotus appeared under it), the fourth week in the area around the temple, the fifth under another Bodhi tree (which is no more- a pillar stands in its place) answering the questions of learned Brahmins, and the 6th week at the centre of the pond. It is believed that when a severe thunderstorm approached, Adisesha himself arrived to protect the Buddha, forming an umbrella over his head with his hoods. This is the reason Buddha is sometimes counted as the 9th avatar of Vishnu.

There are over 50 temples at Bodh Gaya, all built by foreign Buddhists. The most important one however, remains the Maha Bodhi Temple, where the Bodhi tree stands. But we visited only the main temple.
Bodhi Tree:This tree, though not the original one under which Buddha sat, is however, its descendant. The original tree was destroyed by the Mughals. A branch of the original tree had been taken to Sri Lanka by some Buddhist monks, and Ashoka ordered a branch of that tree to be brought and planted here. He himself took care of this tree. This second one was cut down on the orders of Ashoka’s wife because she was jealous of the attention he paid to it. Nevertheless, he got a second branch from the Sri Lanka tree and planted it. This third one was destroyed during a cyclone, and another branch planted. The present tree is the 4th. It is an amazing thing that branches from the original tree flourish wherever they are planted, all over the world!
Explanations:

* Shrraddham or performing the Vedic rites to appease one’s forefathers is of two types- Anna roopam and Hiranya roopam. Anna Shrraddham is where a certain number of Brahmins are invited, and are fed at the completion of the rituals. This is considered equivalent to feeding one’s ancestors. However, this is quite tedious, and sometimes expensive. Hence the second option, Hiranya Shrraddham, where the Brahmins are fed only symbolically. This is a quicker and cheaper alternative to the same rituals. At places like Kashi the pundits offer us the option of choosing which kind of ritual we would like to perform, depending on our time and budget.
Naandhi and Vaishnava Shrraddham refer to the rites for appeasement of one’s ancestors and the Gods, respectively.

** Pinda pradaanam is the ritual of offering food to three (in case of Gaya, more than that) generations of our ancestors. Balls of cooked rice and Til (sesame seeds), which are thus offered are called the pindams.

*** Daanam - Strictly meaning Charity, Daanam refers to the procedure of donating things to the Brahmins in the name of our ancestors. There is a long list of things that need to be given, starting from simple things like umbrellas, fans, and mats to more expensive things made of silver and gold. Among the more auspicious ones is the donation of a cow (Godaanam) and land, both of which are usually done in symbolic terms. Poorvanga and Uttaranga Daanam refer to the things needed to be given at the beginning and end of the rituals respectively, while Dasa Daanam refers to a set of 10 things that need to be donated.

† The Akshaya Vata and the Vishnu Pada are the only two places where one can perform the Vedic rites not only for our forefathers, but for anyone, family, friends, acquaintances, whatever caste, religion or community they may belong to… and also for animals, our pets, abandoned bodies, etc.. This is the uniqueness of Gaya which draws thousands of people from all parts of India.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

The Wheel

WHEEL is everywhere, more especially in all the transporting devices. Any scientific invention and Technological innovation has brought a whole new style of life but wheel brought a tremendous change.The wheel is probably the most important mechanical invention of all times. The idea of a symmetrical component moving in a circular motion on an axis, gave the boost to the Industrial revolution. All other technologies evolved out of this simple principle of motion. We have unwavering love of the wheel. Children have special attraction to Ferris Wheel.
But my question here is:
WHO should be accredited for the invention of the WHEEL?
WHEN, and WHERE the WHEEL was invented?
WHAT material was used in the first known WHEELS?

Note: In India, our scriptures are full describing the use of chariots and hence the use of WHEEL in the ancient times including Ramayana and Mahabharata.