Girls in a traditional Indian family

A girl right from the birth itself grows in a controlled environment under the protection, care and guidance of her parents and family members.Later influenced by her school and neighbouring environments, she develops local characteristics. Development , progress and career advancement etc. of a girl in a traditional Indian family depend upon the family she is born in. A girl progresses in her life according to the environment of the family; picks up the language, food habits and general behavioural patterns , religious beliefs , rituals and many more things from her family. Most of it is adopted from the family and its environment.It is known as conditioning. Before the marriage, a girl learns most of the things from the family and takes the physical, intellectual and spiritual shape of the life . Before marriage, she is matured enough to understand the basics of living a life and dealing the various aspects within a society. It is like a river , which takes its colour , taste , depth , currents and speeds etc. from its environment through which it flows and goes on changing as it progresses on its path of the journey . A small river merges with a big river in its course of journey and big river merges with a mighty river and finally mighty river merges with the ocean. The notable point here is that a small river looses all its characteristics when it merges with the big river and takes the characteristics of the big river. For example , a big river, like Yamuna when merges with mighty river Ganga in Allahabad, it looses its colour, depth, taste , currents and speed and even known no more as Yamuna but only Ganga for the rest of its course. Ganga, similarly looses everything when it merges ocean in the Bay of Bengal. Simply it is completely merged ( yeh vileen ho jaati hai) having no identity or no name of its own . Same thing happens to a girl after the marriage. She adapts everything of in-laws family. She changes the whole life style what she had from her parental family. Though it is not easy but it is necessary, natural and normal . Ocean does not come to the river, it is only the river which after completing its course in a particular environment, goes to the ocean. For the rest of the course of the life, a girl must adapt and completely merge with the in-laws family. ( for food habits, language, culture, religion, beliefs and rituals etc.) In western societies or even now in our Indian modern societies, everyone wants her own identity and individual life style and hence the problems in the marital life , the family and the society.

DRIVING Test;

I had my Road Driving Test on 12/12/2011 2nd time after I passed my first test in first attempt in 1995 in Michigan. I failed here miserably. My G is reduced to G1 means I can not not drive alone - like a learner. I have to call Sushma at home to arrange some one to accompany me from the Driving Test office . It was a Hazel; she could get Pankaj and Sudha Mehta who got me back home. But this was an alarming situation. We do not have many friends here who could be called when needed and children living in USA far distance away and more over they have their own plans/programs; They can not manage our problems while we have been living here in Canada . ??????
I had my another driving test on 27 January, 2012; failed again; with the help of Usha Grace Peter, Her friend, Lueba accompanied me to the test centre. I took my three hours road driving training practice session with Ontario Driving school prior going to test. Mr. Shameem Khan was a good trainer, I learned and practiced a few things. It was useful training. In the test, I thought that everything is right but ultimately, perhaps, I failed for my silly mistake as I stood waiting behind a transport bus in front of the drive way blocking the traffic. I wonder as how long this is going to be. Perhaps, they are too strict with the seniors as it is either fail or pass for G , no G2.I am a little bit disappointed.
27th February; I took a few lessons for practice on road from Saad and Shameem and I was quite confident this time but failed again with the same strict examiner; This time a pedestrian appeared like a devil creating a situation for me. Yesterday, I was nervous and under tension though tried to relax but could not; I am relaxed again considering that GOD has certain designs/ plans of his own for my betterment. April 24, 2012; My fourth Test was on 24th April, 2012. I was quite tensed as I failed three previous tests for trivial mistakes and mostly because of the bias for the seniors. The examiners are really very strict with the seniors and I feel they harass them. Any way, to day's examiner was a nice person - a very considerate lady. She declared me PASSED with compliments that I did very well; A big relief. I should express my thanks to Luba also - a friend of Usha who accompanied me to the Driving Test Centre. I am seriously thinking to write about my experience to CARP so that if they think it appropriate, they can take the matter with the ministry of Transport to provide some alternatives and relief to the seniors.

Women in Traditional Society of India

Women traditionally ( especially in conservative/traditional Indian society ) are dependent on men. Before marriage, a girl for her development, progress and career etc. mostly depends on her father or alternatively on her brother(s). After marriage , she is dependent on her husband; If husband dies, a widow depends on her son (s) or alternatively on her brother (s) . So, in fact, she is never independent, can not survive without appropriate support of men.But not true any more in the modern society, may be soon with time, situation may reverse when men will become dependent on women.