Girls in a traditional Indian family

A girl right from the birth itself grows in a controlled environment under the protection, care and guidance of her parents and family members.Later influenced by her school and neighbouring environments, she develops local characteristics. Development , progress and career advancement etc. of a girl in a traditional Indian family depend upon the family she is born in. A girl progresses in her life according to the environment of the family; picks up the language, food habits and general behavioural patterns , religious beliefs , rituals and many more things from her family. Most of it is adopted from the family and its environment.It is known as conditioning. Before the marriage, a girl learns most of the things from the family and takes the physical, intellectual and spiritual shape of the life . Before marriage, she is matured enough to understand the basics of living a life and dealing the various aspects within a society. It is like a river , which takes its colour , taste , depth , currents and speeds etc. from its environment through which it flows and goes on changing as it progresses on its path of the journey . A small river merges with a big river in its course of journey and big river merges with a mighty river and finally mighty river merges with the ocean. The notable point here is that a small river looses all its characteristics when it merges with the big river and takes the characteristics of the big river. For example , a big river, like Yamuna when merges with mighty river Ganga in Allahabad, it looses its colour, depth, taste , currents and speed and even known no more as Yamuna but only Ganga for the rest of its course. Ganga, similarly looses everything when it merges ocean in the Bay of Bengal. Simply it is completely merged ( yeh vileen ho jaati hai) having no identity or no name of its own . Same thing happens to a girl after the marriage. She adapts everything of in-laws family. She changes the whole life style what she had from her parental family. Though it is not easy but it is necessary, natural and normal . Ocean does not come to the river, it is only the river which after completing its course in a particular environment, goes to the ocean. For the rest of the course of the life, a girl must adapt and completely merge with the in-laws family. ( for food habits, language, culture, religion, beliefs and rituals etc.) In western societies or even now in our Indian modern societies, everyone wants her own identity and individual life style and hence the problems in the marital life , the family and the society.