My Nani; My last visit to my Nani

I do not remember the exact date or time etc when I visited my Nani in Chandpur last time . However, I do remember a few things which are quite emotional, heart touching and now  I do regret for some of them.
I went to meet her by evening train , reaching Chandpur at about 8 PM or so and returned the same night by 11;45 or so. Nani has shifted from her long time residence upstairs where I lived with her to a smaller place downstairs where mama ji ( Hakim Ajoodhiya Prasad ji ) used to live and sleep. It was for obvious reasons as she was not able to live and support herself by herself and was unable to live independently. Her physical and mental health were deteriorating every day .A family of a retired policeman ( Dewan ji) was taking her good care for her daily routine .
It was dark and Nani was taking rest and preparing to sleep when I reached there. Dewan ji,s wife told her about my arrival and she asked me very rightly as " Why I have come?" . Later when I told her that I am going back by the night train, she was very much annoyed and told me that why not I should go back now and immediately  and what was the necessity to come and visit her at all. I knew that it would have been very inconvenient for me and all others at that place if I would have stayed back as there was no enough place for me to stay. She did not talk to me much as she was annoyed and she was also not in her  proper senses.
To day when I recall this and analyse the incident, I regret for my own behaviour and pity on her helpless situation . I do not know as what could have been better for me to do any thing for the person who loved me the most.
After some time when Dewanji,s family was unable to look after any more , she moved to live with our family at Jhalu where she died after some time. What a tragic end of nani. I wonder as what happened to all her belongings in Chandpur. She had no other purpose to live a life except to look after all of us ( myself, Lakshmi, Gultoo, Santosh and Virendra ). We all lived at different times for our education with her when she was healthy and took care of all of us. In return, I do not think that any of us did anything any time for her . She left very heavy debt on us.

Har Prasad ji : Baba ji, Dadi ji (BOBO)

In my another blog, I have written the history of my family giving all the facts, I could know from my elders;https://www.blogger.com/u/1/blogger.g?blogID=7434278182063497637#editor/target=post;postID=3162980977026679503;onPublishedMenu=allposts;onClosedMenu=allposts;postNum=2;src=postname

In that blog, I wrote in short about one of my gradfather,s younger brother - youngest brother as following:

Shri Har Prasad Vaish , the youngest of grandfather,s  brother lived in Muzaffarnagar as his wife, Dadi ji  ( popularly known as BOBO) from Dadri was the only child of her parents and she inherited property in Muzaffarnagar. Baba ji was educated, high school , used to speak good English ( how and where was he educated ????); He was a civil contractor; both Dadi ji and Babaji were excellent persons and very social , affectionate and caring people. They were quite visible all over during all the occasions/celebrations  of the family.They had three daughters=Indira ji, Kamla ji and Ramla ji; Indira Buwa ji was married to an engineer, Shri Jai Prakash Agrawal , son of shri (Master) Ram Nivas ji in Bijnor, later settled in Jabalpur. Ramla ji and Kamla ji also settled in Muzaffarnagar after the death of Babaji. He was great man and we have yet to see a person of his style in our family. I have several memories of my own experience with him. I will write them somewhere else.  It is time  now to write some thing about them:

Both of them were excellent persons with all standards. They were most visible persons not only in our family but among all their relations and friends. They were the persons who will take responsibilty by themselves;
1. Dadi jee will be the first person to arrive in all our social functions be it a marriage ceremony, or naming ceremony. She will take responsibility that all the guests are properly served at all the occasions- breakfast, lunch, dinner, milk for the children, their comfort and every thing , no body to blame the main host for any deficiencies and they were not there under her command and control; Her voice was heard every where.She was able and capable managing these affairs perfectly well ; and she was very strong link and coordinator in establishing the relationships among all the family members.
2. My younger brother Santosh had problem getting admission in M.Sc. (Chemistry) with the combination of Geology, Geography and Chemistry in B.Sc. as Agra University did not recognize this combination for M.Sc. Admission. When I failed to do anything in DehraDun and elsewhere, I casually mentioned to Dadi jee about it as I knew that she has lot of influence in Muzaffar Nagar. She immediately accepted the responsibilty and contacted the relevent people connected to College management. Management forced the Principal to admit him out of way and make an acceptable precedence for the University. Santosh stayed comfortably with her for a year during his M.Sc. previous before moving to DehraDun for final year. Commendable, what Santosh is to day with his M.Sc. degree in Chemistry, it is due to her efforts..
3, I do remember another incident when I took admission in first year of Intermediate in DAV College, DehraDun. He of his own initiative visited me in DehraDun and asked about the details of my study programme; discussed at length the prons and cons for the combination I had ( Biology group; Chemistry, Zoology and Botany  ) ; went to the Principal and asked him to change it to Chemistry, Physics and Maths without asking me or my parents. He used his own authority . Who can take such kind of step these days even for his own children? He was a good advisor and councellor .That was the kind of responsibilty and authority , people used to take then. relations were very informal and cordial ; I remember, I used to go and stay with them in Muzaffarnager  without any hasitation. or inhibition. Whole family was very affectionate and caring.
4. My M.Sc. education in BHU was partly financed by Babajee very informally and willingly. The help was offered by him not that we requested him to do so. Of course, I very gratefully tried to refund the whole amount he paid when I got my job with ONGC.
5. On the occasion of  matrimonial engagement, Dadi jee could not come to join my family. She sent Ramla Buwa jee to accompant the family to Aligarh ;
Both of them were most respected persons by all our family members.